[jakee94]

hey all im new here so please tell me if im doing anything wrong
and please bare with me its a long story, ill keep it as simple as possible!

my girlfriend and i have just past the "honey moon" stage of our relationship if you will, and since then i always feel like she is going to break up with me

i get worried if she doesnt reply to my calls or txts thinking she doesnt care or doesnt want to talk to me, and sometimes i feel like she doesnt want to touch me or have sex with me anymore. i always have in the back of my head, what is she up to, is she cheating on me, does she still love me, is she going to leave me.

then i began to think maybe it could have something to do with thing that happened with my mother. When i was younger i was very close to my mother and she was the only female i truly trusted and i knew would never lie to me or leave me. her and my father started having problems and i said to her "promise you wont leave me or dad" and she promised she wouldnt, but she did.. she cheated on my dad and lied to me

i was wondering if maybe this could have something to do with the way im feeling, the woman that i loved and trusted most in my life lied to me and left me, so now im scared that my girlfriend is going to do it to me?

feedback would be greatly appricated!

[Travelinglady]

Hi, jakee, and welcome to Psych Central! I suspect you are correct that what happened between you and your mom might be making you fearful. If need be, then talk to a counselor about it. My concern would be that your fear might drive your girl away, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[jakee94]

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

Hi, jakee, and welcome to Psych Central! I suspect you are correct that what happened between you and your mom might be making you fearful. If need be, then talk to a counselor about it. My concern would be that your fear might drive your girl away, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Thanks for your feedback, yeah im scared that im going to start pushing her away because im constantly bugging her, and im prob think im trying really hard to show her how much i truly care and show her my love, but she just sees it as annoying and im smothering her.

thank you again! i feel alot of relief after this