Getting over cheating ex...

Hey everyone, I don't usually do this, but I just need to talk to people, even if it's with complete strangers.

So as the quote would suggest, my girlfriend, well, ex-girlfriend, of 3 years cheated on me. I'll start from the top..

We had started dating my Sophomore year of high school, and have basically been in love since. (We're freshmen in college now.) I do believe people mistaken teenage/puppy love with "acual" love all the time, but for me, this was real. She was it, this was it, we had everything. When it was time to go to college, I decided to go to a university an hour away while she stayed at home and went to community college. At this time, she had had a best friend that was a guy for about a year. I always knew that something would happen between them, but i loved her and trusted her. The **** that gets to me is that she always said, they were just friends. She always said that long distance would work for us and that she wouldn;t ever give up. Sadly, it was a load of crap. To be fair, she says that they didn't do anything until we had officially broken up. But i still consider it cheating, don't you? She basically waited for us to be done before she and her best friend started their relationship. She didn;t have the decency to just end it and let me move on. I knew things we're going south a few weeks before we actually broke up. Sad thing us, I really tried to make us work. I worked so hard to keep us together, just to know that she had given up and went to her best friend weeks before. We've been broken up for a month and a half now. I talked to her today and she told me she loved me and all that ********, but finished with a sorry and that she was going to go with the other guy. This feeling feels terrible. I've gone through something like this before. But with this girl, it was different. She was the one for me... Anyway, I just need any advice anyone can give that can help me get over her. I know the road is long and it's going to be hard, but I need to start somewhere. Thanks for reading guys. Advice from both men and women would be greatly appreciated!

Hey zahid. I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you. Nobody ever wants to be in that situation. When you said you felt that she was the one, I knew it's going to be a big problem to overcome her. During this moment, just focus on yourself. Just keep in mind that it is not fair for you to keep thinking about her while she is not (or barely) thinking about you because she is happy with the other guy. It's never fair that way. Acceptance that she is gone will take a long time. Just brace yourself for the journey. Do not get involved with other people yet. Make yourself whole again. That is probably the hardest part, dealing with the pain your self. But just know that there is an expiry date for that suffering of yours.

Well it may not seem like any type of comfort but I'm very sure you can now stop referring to her as "The One" in your mind and to others, because if she was, you would be her "The One" too and she wouldn't be with someone else right now.

See someone can only ever truly be The One, if you are afforded the same label.

I'm really sorry you are hurting like this, please take the time to look after yourself CAREFULLY, like you would a dear friend. Do nice things just for you, spend time getting to know the you minus the girl. Healing will start once you're ready to embrace it.