Hi so I am friends with a group of people, two girls and two guys and one of the guys happen to be dating one of the girls. They are pretty nice but they interrupt constantly, the two girls and the guy who is dating one of the girls is the worst. The guy and one of the girls have ADHD but it seems like they interrupt me way more than the others. Also, especially for one of the girls, if I am telling them something, they only appear to be half listening, even if it is asking for advice or if I am telling them something exciting or something that is bothering me. But then when they talk to each other, they are very attentive and have their full attention on one another, kind of makes me wonder if they really value me as a friend or if they just have a habit of talking over others especially since two of them have ADHD. Also they tend to repeat themselves a lot, like the same story is repeated all the time, a lot of their conversations are almost identical each time they are together and it gets kind of old at times. I understand two of them have ADHD but I've known other people with ADHD in the past and they have better control over when they talk over people and how often they do it so that's why I'm not sure if this is because of their ADHD or if it is something else. When I am alone with one of them, the guy and girl who are dating aren't so bad during one-on-one conversations even though they tend to still be repeated but not as often and are way more attentive but the other girl appears to only half listen even if it is one-on-one so I am not sure whether or not it is ADHD or if it is something else or a combination of both. Not sure how to deal with this and be able to get a word in or when I am in the middle of speaking they interrupt me and I never get to finish what I was saying at all, need advice on what this may be and how to rectify this problem. Thanks.

[hvert]

It sounds like the group dynamic doesn't work for you but seeing a few of these people one on one is okay. Could you avoid group activities with them? It sounds like they may have a different conversational style than you do, and when all of you are together, there are more people with their style than yours.

I've been struggling for a solution to a similar problem for a year now. I've thought about saying something like 'I'm sorry, I was talking' when interrupted, but it seems pointless when she is so obviously not interested in what I'm saying. I've decided that I am better off letting this friendship go and pursuing a more enjoyable friendship with someone else.

Originally Posted by hvert

It sounds like the group dynamic doesn't work for you but seeing a few of these people one on one is okay. Could you avoid group activities with them? It sounds like they may have a different conversational style than you do, and when all of you are together, there are more people with their style than yours.

I've been struggling for a solution to a similar problem for a year now. I've thought about saying something like 'I'm sorry, I was talking' when interrupted, but it seems pointless when she is so obviously not interested in what I'm saying. I've decided that I am better off letting this friendship go and pursuing a more enjoyable friendship with someone else.

Makes sense, feel like they are probably closer to each other than to me.