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Feb 07, 2014, 11:07 AM
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Let me start out with I have been with a very caring humble guy for 8months now. He has religious beliefs that I respect, but they are starting to make me kind of wonder. Thats not the BIG issue right now...the issue is that he proposed to me with a cubic zirconia engagement ring. We talked before about I did not want a fake ring and he turned around and did this. Well the ring was a very small size so it did not fit and I told him that we talked about a cubic. H
He acted upset or mad but I deserve a real ring!And I wont settle for less! I love, care, and this guy helps me be humble and he accepts all my flaws but the bed room action is not my speed because of his "religion" he feels guilty. I do not know what to do I am so confused.Any help would be appreciated. 
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Feb 07, 2014, 12:20 PM
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You are not respecting his religious beliefs if you expect him to do things in the bedroom that he feels guilty about. You are expecting him to compromise his values and who he is. I see that as the bigger compromise than the ring. It sounds like you guys have more to talk about, either with each other or a counselor. If you are starting out with unresolved issues like this now, it is not going to get easier or better once you are married without working through this stuff.
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#3
Feb 07, 2014, 12:46 PM
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I agree with Rapnzel. The ring is one thing but the sexual thing is a biggy if you are talking marriage. Religous ideals are hard to change. If you aren't compatable now you won't be when you get married.
As far as the ring goes, the two of you are not communicating well either which is another biggy. Two red flags. Watch out.
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#4
Feb 07, 2014, 01:08 PM
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the ring is a symbol. you are worried about the monetary value.
Personally - I do not think you are at all ready for marriage. sorry - just being honest. |
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Feb 07, 2014, 01:33 PM
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The size of the ring?
 ???? You're kidding, right?Wish I had read of his special qualities or uniqueness, especially since the idea here is marriage. A lot is said by this posting. Maybe, just maybe, he will get a chance to read it. Might you print it so he could get a glance at the real you?
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Feb 07, 2014, 08:28 PM
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Let me clarify myself: First I was engaged before by my daughters dad and we never made it to marriage cause he passed away. So it has been hard for me to love another and that's why I believe I deserve the realest.
Second: The bedroom thing is that he last 5 minutes and we are not compatable in the bedroom. |
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