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Old Feb 12, 2014, 03:24 PM
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I recently weaned off geodon (horrible, horrible withdrawal) and couldn't take care of my eight-year-old for almost three weeks. His dad kept him. I'm feeling a lot better now, but I'm seriously stressing about having him again. He's extremely high-energy, and my anxiety has been pretty intense lately. How can I get over this almost-fear? I love him so much, but I'm terrified of panicking when he's here!

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Old Feb 12, 2014, 03:30 PM
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Are you scared of not being able to attend, to him? Do you keep snacks and drinks readily available, if he needs to grab on his own? Noone is really expected to be a constant companion. Does he have self directed things he can do?
Is he hyper active, or just typical of an 8 year old boy?
Any friends, locally, he can have 'playdates' with?

What do you fear, will happen, with your own anxiety?

They[boys] are a lot of work, young, but they grow...and become helpful.

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Old Feb 12, 2014, 03:34 PM
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He's definitely hyperactive, no doubt about it. It's even worse when my boyfriend is here, which REALLY bumps up my stress level. I'm worried that he'll do something to offend my boyfriend and he'll get angry. Anger really frightens me. My boyfriend has never been angry with my son, but it's still a fear.

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Old Feb 12, 2014, 04:09 PM
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My late moms third husband, was/is a stressful person, to be around. Little things would set off, his moods. He'd lose his patience, a little too quickly. He's one person, my exh and I could agree on, parenting wise.

Are you afraid, your bf, will turn away from you, over your son?

Must be stressful, worrying about acceptance, as a complete package, woman and mother, with a child who needs a little more than norm?



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Old Feb 12, 2014, 04:13 PM
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It's mainly because my last husband hated having my son around. My boyfriend is wonderful with him, but I still have this terrible fear that he won't accept us. :-(

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Old Feb 19, 2014, 01:56 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about what your going through....have you thought about getting a family therapist in addition to an individual therapist? Has your son been evaluated? A family therapist will work with your entire family as a whole to help you get through this....I'm sure they can help your sons behaviour as well as your responses and fear of it....may be worth looking into...I hope everything works out for you both
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