[gloamingone]

I talked my boyfriend into going to karaoke without me tonight. It felt really, really good because it felt so selfless. Now I'm pissed of and feeling selfish!

See, he's still married. Separated for four years and hasn't seen her for three. She's a meth addict, in and out of prison. The only reason he won't divorce her is he doesn't want her to get half his retirement.

So, anyway, he was about to leave karaoke and come home to me when his wife's mother showed up at the bar. He's staying to hang out with her and talk about his wife and her son, who is also a meth addict in and out of prison.

I just wish he would divorce her! It was hard for me to encourage him to go out without me when I don't see him all that much, between his job and my son. He promised to come home early and he's planning on staying til the bar closes now.

Thanks for letting me vent. I guess I'm just a little jealous and missing him.

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[pamj533]

Originally Posted by gloamingone

I talked my boyfriend into going to karaoke without me tonight. It felt really, really good because it felt so selfless. Now I'm pissed of and feeling selfish!

See, he's still married. Separated for four years and hasn't seen her for three. She's a meth addict, in and out of prison. The only reason he won't divorce her is he doesn't want her to get half his retirement.

So, anyway, he was about to leave karaoke and come home to me when his wife's mother showed up at the bar. He's staying to hang out with her and talk about his wife and her son, who is also a meth addict in and out of prison.

I just wish he would divorce her! It was hard for me to encourage him to go out without me when I don't see him all that much, between his job and my son. He promised to come home early and he's planning on staying til the bar closes now.

Thanks for letting me vent. I guess I'm just a little jealous and missing him.

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i understand about the retirement thing.but can she still get it if she is in jail? if she divorces him then she wont get it?I dont want to sound mean.at all.but why in the world does he want to hang out with the wifes mother?he can talk about his son over the phone.How long have you two been together?like i said not trying to be mean.or start anything.But something doesnt seem right here.please be careful.Dont let love blind you.Just a feeling.but does not seem right.

[gloamingone]

It's not the ideal situation. :-( We've been together a year and a half. I don't know all the legal details, but I know of he does a divorce by publication while she's NOT in prison, she won't find out about it in order to claim her half. He's just dragging his feet, and it's driving me crazy!

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[forwarding]

Maybe I am wrong but my understanding is the longer they are married the more she gets. And does he ever plan on divorsing her & marring you.

Think about this, if he is not willing to do the right thing by her his wife what will he do for you? It is your future & possible security, how long are you willing to waig?

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[gloamingone]

I totally understand him not wanting his wife to get any of his retirement--throughout their marriage she refused to work, cheated on him constantly, and did heroin, meth, and cocaine in the basement with her friends. If our situations were swapped, I wouldn't want her to get a penny from me.

I'm not interested in getting married anytime soon. I just get bugged when his past comes back to haunt us. I rarely get jealous, but this kind of pushes me over the edge a little.

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