[curious12]

I meet a man from a dating site. First date he asks how much money I have. He starts searching for houses online and asks if I can afford to buy the house (840,000) without a mortgage. I didn't answer. He took my phone out of my hand on a second date and started to scroll through my contact list commenting on the amount of male names I have there. He doesn't like my car, I have told him I am trading it on a new car for the same price as my trade. He is unhappy and thinks I should outlay a further 18,000 for an audi. He says he is worried about my choices of houses and cars. He questions my breaks at work because I text him when I am on them and thinks they are not timed right. He believes a picture of my son scares him....a business man in the photo. He triple locks his front door and removes the key, wont open others doors even when it is hot. He thinks a neighbour on one side is angry because she wanted to buy his house. On the lower side he believes she is angry at him but doesn't know why. We have to talk quietly as people from outside may hear. He has weapons....a machete in his lounge room, knifes and baseball bat in his bedroom. He always takes his ipad out with us, even bush walking and movies because he says his life is on it and cant risk it being stolen. He thinks someone was plotting to kill him in his last home and bugged his house. He appears OCD, spoons all lined up in his drawer, cloths to wipe sinks down in bathrooms after using the tap, etc. He commented on one of my hairs on the floor. His trailer which is well up in his yard is chained with a large chain. He takes a key locked bicycle rack off his bike despite it being impossible to remove whilst we are bike riding. He says that women lie. He is 56 and never married with a string of relationships in which he believes the women cheated. He has critized my hair, a few lines on my face, says I am getting jowls, doesn't like my unit, my car, my sons picture, my sons success. He believes the world is being taken over. He cut a bike light off my bicycle because he didn't like it, without asking. He asked about my dating profile and when I showed him it was inactive he got into it and started deleting men who had previously messaged me. He talks about when we live together, looks at going away for holidays but says that we are day to day. He avoids full sexual encounters as he says he hasn't been tested since his last relationship yet appears reluctant to have tests done soon. He thinks during a pile operation that the doctor did something to shrink his scrotum. Is this guy worth trying to have a relationship with ?

[Rose3]

Were there some aspects of him that were appealing to you? Pros and cons. Your description of him - sounds like he is suspicious, controlling, somewhat negative, generalizes. Why is he asking about your money? Why is he criticizing your hair, face, jowls? Why does he dislike your car? And weapons?

[healingme4me]

Run

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[justbeingme80]

I'm with the poster above...run. It doesn't sound like he's too stable, and it's none of his business with what you do with your money. I'd be worried about the paranoia he seems to have.

Wow....You went on a second date with this guy?

You're worth more.

[HourHand]

Is this a serious post? Sorry for asking, but the way you describe this person reads like a profile for a psycho. If you really are dating someone like this you will be in for a world of hurt later on.

Run away.

HourHand

Get away from him as fast as you can.

[Trippin2.0]

I fail to see how he made it past the first date!
I'm also not sure what is confusing you, he's absurd behaviour speaks volumes: RUN

[hamster-bamster]

I also wonder if you are serious. An adult woman with an adult son, on a mental health support site, presents a textbook case of paranoid delusions and does not identify it?!?! You identified the possible OCD but failed to see paranoid delusions? Between the two, which one is worse?

Also, forgetting dx's and returning to lay parlance - the man, per the first two lines of your post, is a weirdo. That part is clear and NOT confusing. Your behaviors - what you let him do, such as deleting messages in your dating profile - are what is confusing.

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

RUN

This. No need to ponder or analyze this dumbass. he's not worth it at all.