[Confus3d]

My husband and I have been married for almost eight years. Two years into our marriage he cheated on me, I didn't think I or our marriage was going to make it out alive but we did; after much work, dedications and eliminating negative influences from our lives. I vowed to never commit such betrayal as he did to me, to never stoop down that low of respect for myself and my marriage. But today, I stand before myself having the strongest urge to commit a martial affair.

I'm not seeing anyone else. But I have been admiring someone else from afar. A coworker who I've only exchange a few words of hellos and thank you's. I'm having very strong sexual attraction to him. I've been driving myself crazy with the thought of him. And within just one week, I've completely changed. I no longer fuss about the smallest thing, I've stopped laughing and smiling around my husband. My heart feels empty of love. I feel I have lost all feelings of being human. The only thing I can think of is that coworker.

I think of him when I'm awake and I see him when I'm asleep. When my husband touch me, it's not my husband I am feeling. I know it is wrong, and that is why I'm reaching out for help, advice or any input to help pull me back down to earth.... I am not completely gone, but I'm afraid I might wake up one day and really act upon my urges.

[Travelinglady]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central! Are you sure you have gotten over your husband's having an affair? To me your desire to have one yourself suggests that your marriage still needs some work. I am thinking it would be good for you to talk to a counselor about it and then if the counselor believes it would help, have your husband join you.

[gloamingone]

I truly believe there is no excuse for cheating. I got to that point in my first marriage, and after much counseling, decided the most honorable thing to do was get a divorce.

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