[The Fox & the Hound]

Ok, so I have a friend who is going into a relationship, 2 weeks after they started talking. This guy has showed penis to my other friend(wanted to have sex), he has been arrest,& clearly, by seeing his behavior has anger issues. I tried telling her she just gets mad. Said he has changed. I looked up his name & he is on 5+ dating sites, is on a porn site(it was blocked as porn). He always talk about having it & those body parts.

I know she wants boyfriend desperately, & she'll date anyone. He says he sorry about his past, but my friends said he said the same way, & treated her the same.

I am not sure what to do. This the same person who I talked to 21 year old online. She will seriously talk to any guy, which isn't bad, but she'll date anyone no matter what

[NuckingFutz]

Sounds like your friend's boyfriend has some serious issues with sex. I don't think anyone can maintain a relationship with someone that has those kind of issues. Issues like that will come first before the relationship will and will hurt your friend eventually.

Can only offer support, but I feel for your friend. Dating just anyone is an issue all unto itself.

I wish your friend luck to find someone worthy of her.

[The Fox & the Hound]

Is there anything I could do? I feel like i'm overreacting

[Frankbtl]

Originally Posted by The Fox & the Hound

Is there anything I could do? I feel like i'm overreacting

Hi The Fox & the Hound, no I don't think you're overreacting and I'd say that it's really good that you care so much. But other than telling her what you know about him there may not be a lot more you can do other than to be there for her.
Although you might want to drop in your concerns and some advise along the way but maybe do it in a non-confrontational, non-pressurising way in case she goes on the defensive. And that may make her route for him even more.
You could maybe try boosting her self-esteem and confidence as well though as they might be a bit lacking if she's hooking up with this guy. Maybe there's stuff she might talk about that's happened to her that's leading her to be so "desperate" or choose someone like him that you could help her with??
And maybe try to open her eyes a little to the good guys out there??
But kind of judge from her reactions what's getting through/working and what's not.
But if at the end of the day all you can do is be there for her then that's massive!!! And kudos to you for caring so much!!!
Alison

[The Fox & the Hound]

He met her parents last night. They both like him, & think that he is sweet. They know nothing on how he acts.

Should I tell her parents, or let it be?

[The Fox & the Hound]

Ok... Well, she told him that she doesn't want to go out wiht him yet. She said she liked another guy. Then he told her that he cuts, & that he was going to kill himself tonight.

[Frankbtl]

Hi, the Fox & The Hound. Maybe a little of what you said got through to her.
But it really is his responsibility as to where he goes from there, not your friends. She can't be responsible for his choices if and big if he was serious. If there's anyone she can tell who might be close/closer to him then that would be good though.
Alison