exwife and visitation Grrrrrrrr

it is a bit of a long read, i put the trigger icon up in case it is to triggering for members here

Well she has finally gone and done it, she is refusing to let me see my son before xmas so I can give him his presents, citing that she is going on holiday on the 21st of December and wont be back till January and she doesn’t have time for me to see my son to give him the presents early.

Then she said that I don’t see enough of my son to form a relationship with him and that she is pulling the plug on my visits, she is the one stopping me from seeing him all the time, I moved back to London so I could spend more time with my son, I have been lucky and seen him 4 times this year, I have asked her for more visits and she plain refuses stating she doesn’t have the time, now its my fault, go figure.

Now I don’t want to turn into the vengeful ex-husband , but I am going to fight for the right to see my son, she really does not know what is going to hit her, I know I am going to lose in court, that’s a given , but I can still make her attend court, on a weekday, sorry workday, to make her listen to me, and she will have to bring my son with her,

she can and will bring up my mental health status in court to work it against me, but I can do the same to her, I can bring up how she abandoned her daughter at her grandmothers (kids dad side) for 2 weeks and went on a drink and drugs binge that culminated in her being sectioned after a suicide attempt because her boyfriend at the time left her, (that is when we met by the way, in hospital, we were both sectioned at the time), or how after my son was born I gave up my job and only source of income to look after them after she developed post partum depression (baby blues) and was sectioned again, only to attempt a overdose at home when she was released from section. So you see the %#@&#! is really going to be flying both ways on this

I have every email I have ever sent her going back 3 years and 1 years worth of mobile phone calls listed before that, in regards to my son, asking for visitation, all are date and time stamped electronically, and I have every one of her responses saying yay or nay to the visits I requested, she has pushed me to far this time, its time I started pushing back.

mels I am with you my friend! time to fight for your rights! just because one has some mental issues does not make them a bad parent and certainly not a reason to keep you from seeing your son! we are with you!

i wish you the best of luck mellors.....you've been fighting this fight for a long time and i'm so proud of you for never giving up....your son is lucky to have you as his dad.....

(((((((((((Mellors))))))))))))
I hope you can get more visitation with your son. That's just wrong that she can't make time for you to see son before the 21st. It's only just the 10th right now. Good luck to you!

do you have written visitation papers ?
what about popping in and saying you we're in the neighborhood and thought you'd stop in to see your son
Go for all the time you can get
Angie

i got a rather nasty email of her this morning saying that she still hates me, that i am never around when he needs me, and that i dont ask for enough visitation,

i sent her one back with a list of all the dates for this year i have asked for visitation, and highlighted the times she said no, they far outweigh the times she said yes.

this is going to get dirty, i sent her another email asking for visitation every 2 weeks starting from jan 13-14, 2007 on a fixed schedule so we both know where we stand, lets see if she bites

sorry i forgot to say thanks all for your encourageing replies

{{{{Mellors}}}}} I really feel for you. And I hope you both remember that there is an inocent child in the eye of the storm.
~hugs~

good luck mels!

well its been a week since we ( exwife) last spoke via email, my son goes on holiday on thursday for the entire duration of xmas and new year, so i wont get to see him or phone him on xmas day,
i doubt she has even told him i have tryed to contact him, surley she sees what she is doing, she forgets we ( me and son) talk when we meet and he is getting to the age where her flimsy excuses are not going to work much longer, she is going to lose the one thing she loves, control.

if he knows what she is about now that is half the battle! good luck my friend!

Mellors, your son knows that you love him and the day will come when he will fully understand these circumstances. xoxoxo Pat