[aemm]

Hello,

I was talking to a man for 2 months online and we hung out a few times. We really liked each other but then he backed off when he realized neither of us was ready for a relationship (I am recovering from depression, he is newly divorced). It hurt so much when he told me I wasn't ready because I thought I had beat depression and I was afraid that I might snap back into it. I couldn't stop talking to him trying to get reassurance that I wasn't going to snap...he eventually stopped responding to me. I just couldn't stop messaging him. None of these msgs were threats or calling him names...just looking for approval while I was in a depressive episode. I know it was wrong of me. Has anyone ever done something like this before? Will this man ever forgive me?

[coda]

I am not sure if this man will ever write back to you. I am sorry. I know what depression is like as I experience it as well. The very thing that you said you were doing, I am doing right now, and it is a sign of codependency I believe." I couldn't stop talking to him trying to get reassurance that I wasn't going to snap." I am doing that with my boyfriend currently for the last week via text telephone email etc...trying to get reassurance. It's kind of like getting acceptance, what do you think?

[Scotty204]

Depression is tough I know from experience. It's probably best to just move on and learn from this. Try to take care of "you" first and get where you need to be before anything else.

[Archetype62]

Learning and moving on is a great option. To tell you the truth online dating is intense, here is why: first of all, your getting to know each other and there isn't really a way of actually knowing if they are who they say they are. That is about trusting, but always be so, so, so, very careful. Second, within my experience I have figured out why online dating works so effectively fast, because your looking for love, companionship, friendship, or whatever it is you are both searching for it, so your feelings towards each other are going to be more intense than if it was dating in person, because you may be lonely and it is easier to get your feelings out over technology than face to face. Anyways, us girls show our emotions more. If your depressed honey and he can not handle that, then you need to find someone to support you better. And I understand finding someone is tough, but don't stress too much because there is a better "half" for you out there. Just be careful and try not to fall too fast, as to avoid getting more hurt. Please let me know if this was helpful, if you disagree on anything I have said, or have any more questions. Thank You