[CaptainKirk]

In eighth grade, I told my best friend of five years that I was in love with him. He said he'd rather not have any relationship and didn't want to ruin our friendship, but then he was never the same to me again. Within a month our bond, which I thought was strong, had disappeared.

I had a boyfriend for two years. We made all those stupid promises people make when they think they're in love, and it really really felt like it meant something. But with one dispute over how we would acquire children it was over. All that time and all those stupid things we said to each other, all that suddenly means nothing because of this one little conflict of interest?

A girl I knew last semester told me she loved me. I told her I loved her back, and so on. We made more of those little promises and dreams, we even went so far as to discuss names of kids. And then suddenly her new boyfriend tells me it's over. I don't get it.

Lastly, I started to maybe have feelings for a really good friend of mine. I gave her some flowers I picked in the forest and I told her we should go out sometime and she told me she hoped I was joking and gave back the flowers and just left. Now she calls me a creep, I can't even compliment her anymore without her calling me a creep.

Am I missing something here? I don't understand what went wrong, but it has to be me, so what did I do wrong? I just want something to last...

[unaluna]

A lot goes into a romantic partnership. Being transfluid, youre expecting other people to accept and understand things you are unsure of yourself. Thats just for starters, like before you even say hello. The other thing i see in this post, is that you expect love eternal as a young teen, and you ask whats wrong with you that you havent found it? I would say nothing is wrong, except a skewed expectation.

[hvert]

I think Hankster's comment about the skewed expectations was good -- most romantic relationships start with those kinds of promises... and most romances eventually end anyway. For everyone, not just you

Dating friends can be really hard/awkward. Sometimes when a friend tells you that they have romantic feelings towards you, it's hard to know what to do if you don't reciprocate. I've sometimes stopped seeing friends who confessed those kinds of feelings because I didn't want to lead them on and didn't know what else to do.

You'll find something that lasts. It just takes a lot of frog kissing first