[sident82]

Years and years ago i knew a man. We were both going through a rough patch and i used him as a shoulder to cry on, and a small bit more, not sex but stuff.

So, I knew he was a bit "off" (into drugs a bit) but didn't think to much of it. I was married as well.

Anyways, to keep it short after a while he just disappeared, and to be honest it wasn't a big deal for me as i didn't have any feelings for him.

Well, he has just shown back up on the scene and it's telling anyone who will listen that we dated for 3 years. he calls me his ex and says i slept with everyone, but i didn't sleep with anyone!!

So people are calling me out on this and i'm pretty much telling them the way it is. I did hang out but not everything else. My problem is there are a few emails that may lead to people thinking there is more than there was. I told him what he wanted to hear so he'd be there for met, that's all...now my reputation is getting ruined.

Please someone tell me what to do about this?? I really, really need some good advice. I knew this guy had issues but apparently he's telling anyone that will listen that we were together and i'm guessing now showing them the emails. How do i fix this????? i just want to die. I have enough problems in my life without this too.

[River11]

Sorry to hear about this person being an idiot with your name ... it's good that people are coming to you to hear the real story.

I'm afraid I don't have any wonder-method to "fix this" ... It seems just a matter of you keeping your head up and telling it like it was when someone asks you, and trust that anyone who is worth it will see through this man's idiotic bantering. You know who you are and anyone who is worth your time will either know who you are or look and find out for themselves, and that fool's egoistic behaviour won't matter.

Of course it's disturbing to have defaming lies being told about you by someone who used to know you, but it will pass and try to encourage yourself with this pithy little saying : "Those who matter don't care [about what gossipers say], and those who care don't matter."

[yumi]

YOU know the truth and that is all that really matters. I have come to the point in my life that when people try to create lies about me, I realize nothing is going to stop them. They will do what they want to do regardless. I think you will quickly find out who truly stands by you and beleives in you, or those who fall for the false testimony against you. I would shed those who refuse to trust in your words from your life, if that is possible. Stand strong ... ignore this POS as much as possible , defend yourself with your truth, and the rest will fall into place. This man has no right to attempt to do this to you. I'm so sorry he is. I will never understand these types of people He seems like a vengeful little brat who if he doesn't get his way, he seeks to cause chaos and wreck havoc on those he views wronged him. His views, of course being irrational and way off base. I hope this guy leaves you alone.

[Rose3]

Not knowing why he does this, it's probably in your interests to keep lots of distance from him. Carry on with your life. Don't let him invade your life.