Problems Feeling Close

Hi everyone
Right now I am having a just a couple of issues with my boyfriend. I only get to see him twice a week and he lives quite far away. Most of the time, I am the one talking, I try to ask open ended questions, get him to talk about his day etc. but all I usually get is a general "good", "nothing" or "I don't know". I have tried asking open ended questions etc. but he just was not giving much up. Finally I talked with him about it and he opened himself up more than he ever has, needless to say I was incredibly happy. After the issue had been solved however I kept having off feelings about it which is weird because usually I am pretty patient when it comes to these things, then after thinking about it for a bit I realized I was having personal issues that were conflicting me. I guess the truth is is that I have the feeling of never feeling close enough to someone. That and I guess I just don't feel like a big part in his life and that bugs me, although I should be able to get past it, :/ I think too much. I love him so much and really don't want this to get in the way. Is there anything I can do to deal with these problems?

Thanks!(I know this is really long, sorry! this is my first post)

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Boy do I know how you feel

My bf isn't a talker, I see him much less than you see yours and yes, I have issues with closeness, so although this isn't an issue for me presently, it used to be...

Thing is, I've come to accept that he's the strong silent type. He only speaks when he has something fundamental to say and doesn't mind that I'm talkative and steer our convos. I'm much more comfortable now that we've found our rythm, it probably sounds like we don't have any convos, we do, just not in the manner that I initially thought we should....

He's lack of words aren't a negative reflection on me or our relationship, its just part of his character and I'm sure the same goes for your guy.

Maybe you haven't reached the point of comfortable silence yet and that's what leads you to question it, or maybe you haven't yet learned to identify your bf's love language.
He could be saying a lot to you with zero words.
Mine personally speaks in actions, it took a while for me to figure it out.

That is really interesting actually :P I have done a love languages quiz a year or two ago and was telling him that he should give it a go and he said he would, funny how that can all come around!

I guess you are right too, I guess I am still not comfortable enough in the relationship as I think I am :P He has been talking to me a bit more I guess it just requires more patience than I have been having! I have pretty bad anxiety so when I get on a subject it's hard to get off it that day, I suppose that might add something to it.

Thanks for the reply, It's very much appreciated!