[candrews]

I recently broke up with my bf. It's not the first time… we go through a honeymoon phase, things calm down, he goes distant and or I get dissatisfied, I leave, I miss him, lather rinse repeat. This last time I convinced myself that I knew it'd never work and that this time had to be for good.

I met a new guy & we really clicked. Get along well, have similar interests, etc. Wake up one day and *boom* I find myself suddenly no longer interested.

I feel like I am bipolar or borderline only within the context of my romantic relationships! I am stable with my kids, stable with my friends at work, stable with family. It's just my relationships that are like this. I am divorced; I do suffer from depression; I have very low self esteem. Sometimes I feel like an OK mom, some days I feel like I'm failing miserably. Some days I think I'm worthless and hate myself, other days I feel pretty OK. (Point being if I have mania it's extremely mild.)

Any ideas?

[Trippin2.0]

If your relationships tend to go South once the honeymoon phase is over, then I'm not too sure they have much substance to them, or maybe you have unrealistic expectations of what relationships should be like...

The intoxication of the honeymoon phase always wanes, yes you can fan the flame and keep things exciting. I'm not at all saying relationships have to become stagnant, but at the end of the day, 2 people have to share something tangible between them, preferrably friendship.

Some introspection is needed here, only you can identify what the root of this issue is.

Because you brought it up, I just thought I would mention that I have a dual dx of borderline and bipolar, and the havoc it unleashes on my relationship is very specific and very very over the top, its not at all subtle or vague.

[curley]

My first opinion about the fact that you tire of relationships is that you are looking for more then what you are receiving. I can not say if your expectations are unrealistic or not, but that could be the problem!
You say you are a steady mom, but you feel like you are an ok mom. Well good that you are steady and an ok mom!...I think a lot of parents feel they are good and then not so good. If your kids seem well adjusted and happy then all is well.
I would give consideration to the type of man you want in your life and look for that type! Good luck

[hvert]

Maybe the new relationship was a rebound? What you are describing doesn't sound abnormal to me. You were in an on/off relationship for a while, finally ended it, started dating someone new, then realized you weren't that into it. That sounds like dating