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(After re-reading this, it occured to me, it would help if I explained, I have PTSD and DID-Dissociative Identity Disorder. You don't need to know anything about them to respond though, I think.)

I've met what seems like a really great person, and after four weeks of getting to know each other, we started dating.
I should be happy, over the moon, right? I really like and am attracted to this person. I'm 26 and this is the first time I've been healthy enough (and old enough, lol,) to date. This is my first time.

So...is it normal to feel this scared? It's not that I'm scared the person will leave or cheat-I mean, I hope they won't, but that's not what I'm worried about. I've never felt romantic love before-that I am afraid of. I've never seen it work out outside of books and movies. I'm scared I won't be able to have sex (though my therapist has tried to assure me that I will,) because I was molested and I have flashbacks whenever someone touches me "there". I already told this person about it, and how I would need to go slow with everything, and they assured me that was fine, they'd prefer it that way too.

I still get scared sometimes when we're alone. I'm like that with all people. Maybe I'm not ready to date yet. But, then again, if I never try-how will I learn not to be afraid?
I know this is really long, thank you anyone who reads and responds.

[Perna]

Yes, it is normal to feel scared. It is a new experience and you don't know this person well yet! In the past you probably have felt scared in certain important relationships when alone; you remind me of the first time I went on a date with a guy and we went to a fancy restaurant; I felt like we shouldn't be there, our parents should be there with us, worried he might not have enough money to pay, worried I would order something too expensive and my stepmother would find out, etc. It is very hard doing new things for the first time. Congratulations on your relationship and the hard work you are doing.

[Weepingrose]

It is so very normal for you to you to feel this way and that is so great sounds like this person can be good for you. I am so happy for you that you started dating being with someone who will soon to love you and I am sure this person care about you just from what you have said. Hope all works out well for you and this realtionship I wish you all the luck...Sheila (Weepingrose)