[utterlyconfused]

I recently posted up here about a relationship that I am in, and I have made the decision to end things. The only thing is that I don't know how to bring it up, but there is still a small part of me that still wants to be with him.

I know it'll break his heart, and it'll hurt me a little bit as well, but I really don't see us working out long term, you know? Plus I'll be going to college and he'll still be in high school... those relationships hardly ever work out.

I guess the way I see it is to go ahead and pull the band-aid off and heal at home with friends around to help me get through the break up--if I'll need the help. We have a great friendship, but thats all our relationship is. Its nothing more than a really good friendship with the title of "boyfriend/girlfriend".

I just don't know how to do this. I know it'll be for the better, but I just don't want to do it.

[Rose3]

Your decision to end things - does this mean to end the friendship too?

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by utterlyconfused

I recently posted up here about a relationship that I am in, and I have made the decision to end things. The only thing is that I don't know how to bring it up, but there is still a small part of me that still wants to be with him.

I know it'll break his heart, and it'll hurt me a little bit as well, but I really don't see us working out long term, you know? Plus I'll be going to college and he'll still be in high school... those relationships hardly ever work out.

I guess the way I see it is to go ahead and pull the band-aid off and heal at home with friends around to help me get through the break up--if I'll need the help. We have a great friendship, but thats all our relationship is. Its nothing more than a really good friendship with the title of "boyfriend/girlfriend".

I just don't know how to do this. I know it'll be for the better, but I just don't want to do it.

don't be surprised if it destroys your friendship as well..these type of situations never seem to end well..

[utterlyconfused]

Well if we could end things and still salvage the friendship, that would be great! I mean... I would understandably give him some time to have his space if he needed it, but he would still be welcome to come to prom if he wanted. Its not like our relationship has been much of a relationship. The only thing I feel bad about is that fact that I was his first kiss. But you live and you learn and you have to move on.. you know?

I'm just not happy anymore, and I care enough about him to let him go and let him heal now while not much damage has been done. I'd hate to drag this on for another year to see how things go. I feel like I've already drug it on too long.

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by utterlyconfused

Well if we could end things and still salvage the friendship, that would be great! I mean... I would understandably give him some time to have his space if he needed it, but he would still be welcome to come to prom if he wanted. Its not like our relationship has been much of a relationship. The only thing I feel bad about is that fact that I was his first kiss. But you live and you learn and you have to move on.. you know?

I'm just not happy anymore, and I care enough about him to let him go and let him heal now while not much damage has been done. I'd hate to drag this on for another year to see how things go. I feel like I've already drug it on too long.

ideally, that would be wonderful..unfortunately life has a nasty habit of not complying with our wishes..to be totally honest with you, there are few guys that want to hear we can still be "friends" after a break up & you were his first kiss also, hmmm...i have a bad feeling about this one & if he has any kind of feelings for you, (which i suspect he does.) he is probably not going to take it too well, so obviously you have to do what you need to do..but again don't be surprised if your friendship with him is over, there is a strong probability this will be the case..at any rate good luck...i truly believe in this case you are going to need it!