[thickntired]

My birthday is May 6th; I have a T appt that day her & my husband are the only people can handle. I just got out of the psych ward, and then my primary Dr diagnosed me as menopausal. A week ago my parents invited me to lunch with my cousins. Iong story short I complained about my mom calling in the morning because I'd been up until 3am. My Dad, who never gets involved, said well I'm sorry we're such a bother. I went f'ing ballistic. They know I just got out of the hospital then turned around to menopause. I don't know if I'm coming or going my moods are so messed up and psych meds don't do anything to help a hormonal imbalance. So, I sent a polite text and told my Mom not to contact me until I got all my meds & estrogen straight. She went straight into a guilt trip because she's dysfunctional and doesn't respect boundaries.

So, it's just a crap situation all around. My parents think I'm not really mentally ill; I just need to get out of the house more/lose weight/join a church/get a part time job/stop being so dramatic & self absorbed/get over it and move on with my life.

I plan to just tell them we'll go out to dinner later or in June. Then I'll just mail a mother's day card. I am just having a really hard time getting dressed let alone being in public or groups. I hate when mental illness can impair a person to the point where everything is a potential disaster.

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Hey we share a birthday!

Sorry you're feeling so lousy though things are pretty sucky for me too. I hope they can sort something with your meds soon

[Calm]

Hi thickntired, Happy Birthday to you a few days early. Your birthday is the one day you can choose how to spend it any way you desire. What makes you most comfortable and whatever you do that is enjoyable is what counts. So do it!

You're not responsible for how your parents respond to your conditions, physical and mental. Sounds like you handled the situation with them well and didn't succumb to their expectations of what they expected you to do. Boundaries are very important and seems you definitely know more about them then they do.

Menopause can be a very difficult time to get through. I drank soy milk and found it helpful. I'm hoping the times ahead will smooth out some for you, and you'll feel like you're getting back on track. Hang in there and have yourself the type of birthday you want. Keep well and safe.

[kittydag18]

Well, I wish you a Happy Birthday and hope that your meds get figured out quickly. Some people just don't understand what a mental disorder is, or they could be in denial that someone they know and love has a mental disorder. You did what was best though, taking some time for yourself and letting yourself heal before you go into doing things that aren't really comfortable for you.
Wishing you all the best!

[thickntired]

Thank you all for the replies! I do feel like my parent's notions. It does feel self centered when I'm going to therapy etc with so many worse situations for people. That's what really stings because it makes my concerns valid. It's great to be able to post here where people understand.

Love & light ♥

Tnt

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[possum220]

It's your birthday. You can do what you want. Delaying celebrations seems like a sensible idea. Good Luck.

[thickntired]

Ugh my mom keeps freaking texting me. Her last one said (after I said no) will you just eat over here; we won't say anything to upset you.

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