my husband ignores me

I have some same fears, some feelings that it becomes hard to control them, i am very anxious and i think i have a small obsesiv-compulsiv dissorder (i think....i see my repetitive actions). I have some one...my husband. We are married 2 years now, but we are togheter for about 7 years and after all this time i am still alone, even more alone with him around me. He don't speaks with me about anything, just staying on his computer or spending time in the garage. I talk almost alone about all the time. He just consent with anything i say. He never argue with me, never shout at me, no drinking or comming home late, no bad language, he is perfect in this case. But he is never there for me. I had an abortion for him cause he did not want to upset his parents (we were not married at that time and his familly never liked me). I am always affraid for him not to happens something to him cause i know if that happens they will all say it is my fault. I do everything for him...i will give my life for him. He is just for him, very selfish. And i think becasue of his behavior with me made me to get distant with other people and it gets so hard to create new friendships. Anytime i try to get close to some one, they never call me back, never talk to me if i don't start a discution. It became so hard to laugh. Nothing makes me happy anymore and if i die today i will not be sorry.

Hi, blueshade, and welcome to Psych Central! I would be upset, too, if I felt ignored by my husband. That said, I have to admit that I sometimes get wrapped up in something I am doing on the Internet, and hours pass by before I realize it.

Have you told him how you feel? Have you asked about the two of you making sure to carve out some time for each other? Please do so, and then see what he says. Okay?

Hi Blueshade. I am wondering the same question as previous poster. Have you tried to talk to your husband about how you feel. I also agree in these days of "technology".....facebook.... it is easy to get involved and forget about the real world around you. If your husband does not appear to want to make the time, maybe you should email him. I know it sounds strange but if he is on the computer all the time maybe he would see it. I would not go into your feelings to much in the email but say hey remember me... We need to talk!!!
As far as others being distant I am sorry but I guess I do not know enough about the situation to advise you. But maybe you could try to meet some other people who do have time for your friendship! Good Luck