[nimishakhanna]

Hello dr.
I am nimisha from india i have been in a relationship with a guy from 5 years a relationship like two souls 1 body he use to love me alot like nothing nd i too do but about on 5th march 2013 i got a call from a girl she said that my bf is in with a relation ship with her and also in physical contacts, in india making a physical contacts before marriage is a big big thing , when i ask my bf about this he replied that the girl se telling lie he only loves me like nothing that girl is only his friend who want him at any cost, i trusted my bf nd give him another chance nd warned him to stay away from that girl no messages nd call nothing, then we again lived happily for a year like the best love couple if i cry he cries he treat me like am her baby , but now on 22 nd may 2014 the girl again call me she said that i have a proof that the boy is cheating me nd u botjh she send me pictures all the chats then i come to know that my bf is in a relation ship with that girl for 2.5 yr nd he has gone physical with her too i brokeup with him but he is saying me sorry again n again he is appologysing that he will not do it again because he loves me like nothing he has cut his hand he is crying like a baby not eating anything he said that i was not in a control he has gone physical but he never lived that girl i am completely broken plz suggest me what do i do please as soon as possible i am living like hell

[Travelinglady]

Hello, nimishakhana, and welcome to Psych Central! I think you did the right thing by breaking up with him--and I strongly encourage you not to take him back. He lied to you one time, and he will likely do it again.

I know you are hurting and are depressed about it all, but please remember the good times with him and try to move on.

Are you able to talk to a counselor or a doctor about your depression? Here's the link to our Depression forum: Depression - Forums at Psych Central. You can get some suggestions for dealing with your depression there. I hope you will feel better soon.

Are you allowed to find another boyfriend? If so, then I encourage you to start looking around for some men to be friends with and then maybe to marry.

That's what I think, anyway. Let's see what someone else says.

[waiting4]

Originally Posted by nimishakhanna

Hello dr.
I am nimisha from india i have been in a relationship with a guy from 5 years a relationship like two souls 1 body he use to love me alot like nothing nd i too do but about on 5th march 2013 i got a call from a girl she said that my bf is in with a relation ship with her and also in physical contacts, in india making a physical contacts before marriage is a big big thing , when i ask my bf about this he replied that the girl se telling lie he only loves me like nothing that girl is only his friend who want him at any cost, i trusted my bf nd give him another chance nd warned him to stay away from that girl no messages nd call nothing, then we again lived happily for a year like the best love couple if i cry he cries he treat me like am her baby , but now on 22 nd may 2014 the girl again call me she said that i have a proof that the boy is cheating me nd u botjh she send me pictures all the chats then i come to know that my bf is in a relation ship with that girl for 2.5 yr nd he has gone physical with her too i brokeup with him but he is saying me sorry again n again he is appologysing that he will not do it again because he loves me like nothing he has cut his hand he is crying like a baby not eating anything he said that i was not in a control he has gone physical but he never lived that girl i am completely broken plz suggest me what do i do please as soon as possible i am living like hell

I agree with Travelinglady....I know you're hurting right now nimishakhana, but if he lied to you once...and really, he's been lying to you for 2.5 years, he will more than likely lie again, if he isn't already.

I know it's heartbreaking, but how awful would it be if you had married this man and then found out he was still with the other gf? And remember this....the other gf is probably as upset as you are (which is kind of a weird twist) and probably thinks the man belongs to her.

Try to get involved with activites with your friends and family if you can as you go through the transition of not having the bf around anymore, and of course, post here if you need to. There are many supportive people here who will do their best to help you through this.