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May 21, 2014, 09:09 AM
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How do you learn to trust when the one person you love lies. Not unfaithful, just lies.
He lied to me as he thought i needed protection from the truth. What steps can i take for myself to be able to learn to trust. At the moment i don't trust anyone |
 Alone & confused, gayleggg, waiting4
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May 21, 2014, 09:43 AM
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Well, first you choose people who don't lie. Then as you grow to know them you learn to trust. With somep people it is easier to see that they are trustworthy others it takes time for them to prove it. I don't see anyway to trust somebody that lies to me, even if it is for my own good.
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 sophiej14, Trippin2.0
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May 21, 2014, 09:48 AM
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I agree with gaylegg. It just takes time to trust. Trust has to be proven, and it looks like whoever it was that lied to you, broke it.
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#4
May 21, 2014, 10:22 AM
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First off, you have no reason to trust a person willfully being deceitful to you. Being unfaithful does not necessarily mean chating on you either. Deceit and dishonesty comes in many forms and all of them are a betrayal of your trust.
You have no reason to trust this person and your disstrust is justified. Place your trust in someone trustworthy nd you'll find it much easier to continue trusting them. |
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May 21, 2014, 04:55 PM
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May 21, 2014, 05:04 PM
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May 22, 2014, 02:28 AM
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somedays i can trust but others im suspicious of everything. This is not who I am.
He hurt me by protecting his children from our relationship. It was too soon for them to find out about us after the end of his marriage, i 100% agree with that. They come first. We have in the past talked about our past relationships and where we went wrong. We both point blank agreed that we didn't want to make to make the same mistakes and that we should be open and honest with each other. For a long time he didn't really get that, it wasn't what he was used to. Its fine now, we're totally transparent in our relationship. I believe people deserve second chances. Were would any of us be if someone somewhere hadn't given us a second chance??? We all deserve a second chance, don't we? |
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