[Tprice]

Last night I found out that the girl I currently like has a boyfriend already. As a result I have been feeling down all day today. This has become pretty much routine. I have been trying to get a girlfriend since my freshman year of high school. I'm now a senior in college and am no closer than I was then. Nearly every time I like a girl it ends one of two ways. I find out that she has a boyfriend as soon as I find the confidence to ask her out or I do manage to ask her out and am rejected. There seems to be some part of my own mind that seems to be sabotaging me as well, I found out recently that I am completely oblivious to girls flirting with me, and a couple times I was close, I found out that the girl I liked liked me as well, but I got nervous and found some ridiculous excuse to say no. I have been trying to find a girlfriend for years now and just feel exhausted. I don't understand why I have so many problems with this, I have asperger's but I know people who have it more severely than I do and have much better luck than I do. I am successful in every other area of my life. I have awesome friends, both male and female, and am an honor student at my university and have a promising career ahead of me, but this one area of my life has just been tripping me up for years and I'm just mentally exhausted.

[turquoisesea]

If it makes you feel better, I think dating is so much about luck it's not so much a reflection of YOU , as of the luck you've had if you are in a relationship. I never had a boyfriend until mid-college. I have a friend who has NEVER been in a relationship and is older than me - she is a lovely/attractive woman, and friendly... but has spent her attention on her schooling. Now she is looking around for a boyfriend. I think it seems harder by the end of college (I'm around your age I think, a bit older) to find a significant other. But in some ways, for some people college just isn't the place and time.

It sounds like you haven't done all wrong - you did say there was a girl who was into you at the same time you were into her - its all about luck and timing. Don't give up!

[Tprice]

Thanks for your response. I am just frustrated with that whole situation. Even if I ask a girl out and she says yes, I have absolutely no idea what to do. And I have no idea how to improve at that since I get so few chances. Plus the fact that I have been having medical issues recently as well as the fact that I have an online Spanish class this summer, which is my worst subject, and not doing nearly as well as I'm used to. I'm usually an A student and I barely have a C in this class. None of that has helped.

[Travelinglady]

Tprice, I hope you will feel better soon. As far as what to do, the classic things are going out to eat and to the movies, going to a concert, playing miniature golf, going to a museum, etc.