[Jenni855]

To have a non existent and poor relationship with the woman who has cared for your kids for seven years? Say the children came to her regularly and you all bonded once upon a time. If you still worked with this person would it be easy for you to slam the door on them and not make any effort at all once the kids were older and you had no use for the person?

I am struggling to understand how pople can be so cold.

[betaSpirit]

I didn't understand you mate... I mean i didn't understand what you were trying to say....

[healingme4me]

I don't know about an easy choice. But if the relationship has run its course, that's just the way life works, sometimes.

[Jenni855]

But would you not even bother sayin hello to them or making any kind of effort if you still worked together? Knowing she was a big part of your kids lives for many years.

[hvert]

Just to make sure I have this right:

You took care of a coworker's kids for seven years. You were really close to the kids, but now your coworker doesn't even say hello to you?

That does sound pretty awful.

A friend of mine had a sort of opposite situation -- she let a woman whose husband died live with her family in a studio apartment over their garage for a few years. The widow became very close with the kids. After she finally moved out, she never came back. Even worse, she would call up every few months and talk about visiting, get the kids hopes up, and then not show.

Sometimes it is hard to figure out why people act the way they do. I hope you don't have to see this other person on a regular basis. It sounds uncomfortable.

[Jenni855]

That is right Hvert. She is lovely to everyone else but ignores me. It really hurts that she can't even be polite after everything I have done for her and the fact her kids still see me like an auntie

I am sorry to hear of your friends experiences. The person I spoke about does that to me as well, says the kids will come to see me but then doesn't bother showing up.

[hvert]

That really stinks, and it's very hard for the kids I'm sorry your old friend is treating you that way.

[Jenni855]

Thanks, I appreciate you understanding how much it hurts. It means a lot.