[Chaos_shadow_63]

For the past 8 months me and my wife have been having an issue.
She NEVER wants sex and never feels 'in the mood'
She tells me that she doesn't find anything sexually attractive at all not just me.
We have been married nearly 2 years and together for 5.
Shes ONLY JUST turned 20 so it cant be anything to serious can it?

We are both hoping that she gets her 'mood' back but no matter what we do nothing makes her feel like she wants it & we are worried that she will never get it back.

We have been to doctors, and other such medical areas including areas of 'expertise' and all they say is "theres nothing wrong with her"

Any help would be amazing people as we are really worried about all this.

Thanks

[bluekoi]

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[JoeS21]

Originally Posted by Chaos_shadow_63

For the past 8 months me and my wife have been having an issue.
She NEVER wants sex and never feels 'in the mood'
She tells me that she doesn't find anything sexually attractive at all not just me.
We have been married nearly 2 years and together for 5.
Shes ONLY JUST turned 20 so it cant be anything to serious can it?

We are both hoping that she gets her 'mood' back but no matter what we do nothing makes her feel like she wants it & we are worried that she will never get it back.

We have been to doctors, and other such medical areas including areas of 'expertise' and all they say is "theres nothing wrong with her"

Any help would be amazing people as we are really worried about all this.

Thanks

This might be 100% normal.

Initial attraction might be based on "new-ness" and only expected to last a few years. After that, a couple things should carry the relationship forward: 1. A more mature relationship should develop. Some aspects of this "mature" relationship should be similar to a friendship and a partnership. 2. You can "spice things up." That may be easier said than done. Maybe some friends can give you ideas or you can try to figure out what she thinks is hot and experiment with that. Get in shape, try revealing t-shirts, etc. At least this is my impression.