EX bf advice

Hi my name is Diana and I just got out of an 8 year relationship. It wasn't a mutual split, he dumped me. He has said many confusing things since the breakup and it has just made me more lost and confused. We currently have two children together and one on the way (it was planned). We moved over 100+ miles away from where we were living and the kids and I moved into his dads house while he stayed at a friends to work on getting our own place together. I was here for only a week and a half before he dumped me. He said he hadn't been in love with me for a few years, he didn't have to stay though but he did so I don't know why he stayed. I have been smothering him for answers and I am afraid it has pushed him further away. It's been 3 weeks now and after a few days of little contact (just about the kids) I asked him if he had felt guilty for leading me on to believe that he loved me all these years when he didn't and he said he did love me. Later I told him I didn't think he believed how much I did love him and he assured me he knew. He told me that love fades, he wants something different and he just didn't look at us the same anymore. But then he replies that he just wants space and I read too much into it because I figured maybe he would feel different if I gave him that space. I then asked him if I gave him that space if he would give me another chance. He said "I know right now, no". He never became distant before the breakup or anything, he still made me feel like he did love me and cared about me so I am confused on what is happening with him.....

Hi Diana, I am so sorry your bf did not have the courage to be honest before moving you. And also before making a third child with you!
If he says he does not love you then there is really nothing you can do to save the relationship. Just try to keep it friendly for the sake of your children.
Smothering this guy or trying to get answers from him will frustrate you more and make him feel he cant be around you at all. I doubt that he will give you any answers that will make you feel better. I understand after 8 years it is very difficult to start a life of your own, one that will make you and your children happy. Your children will need you to make a happy home! Good luck to you

You mentioned he wanted something different. Clearly, it wasn't to buckle down raising a family. Would seem awkward staying with his dad. Do you have family to turn to, or someplace to live? I'd recommend getting to family probate court and get your child support arranged.
Being a single mom to three won't be the easiest, but it's do-able.
Do you have access to a counselor ? It's a grieving process. Sorry for your sorrows.

I can only turn to my family for support right now, living with them is not an option. I have contacted several different shelters in the area for help and am on waiting lists. I have already started the process for custody and CS but that takes time. The shelters I have contacted do offer counseling and what not. I never imagined this, the break up took me by surprise. He says he still loves and cares for me as a person and mother to his children and still has some feelings for me. When he get's upset with me he tends to say things he doesn't really mean like some of the stuff I posted in my OP. He can be a difficult person to understand but over the years I have come to understand him. He ended the relationship because he felt I was too dependent on him, like his crutch. But I just graduated recently and am looking for a job in my field of study. Maybe once he see's that I can be independent without anyone's help he will realize I am a strong person.