[DianaMariemad]

How long is it normal to grieve after a breakup especially one that lasted a little over 8 years?

I'm still in love with my ex, he broke up with me almost 5 weeks ago because he just felt he wasn't in love with me anymore. I cry everyday and try hard to only do it when our children are not around but somethings make it hard like when my 5 year old said this morning that he missed his dad and he wishes we were all together again. Everytime I feel this baby move it's just a reminder that we planned this baby together and he wants nothing to do with me anymore.

[Little Lulu]

There is no specified 'time limit' to grief. I don't subscribe to the idea that grief needs to last a long time. The pain lasts until you decide you have had enough, are finished with it, and are ready and able to move on.

You may need some support as you move through this -- that is more than OK and probably wise.

[healingme4me]

When kids are involved, I find it extends out further to various aspects, and I was the one who ended my marriage.

Once the shock wears off, you may be able to better gauge things?

In my eyes, it's more than just a break up. He just stranded you with two kids and one on the way.

Single motherhood is complex. Instinct needs to kick into overdrive. It's better to be in therapy and having a pdoc lined up, for after the baby is born time period in your life.

Support is necessary.

[~Christina]

I really think you need a Therapist to help you walk through all the emotions your going through and will be going through.. You will need to be able to set up very structured boundaries when it comes to him and the fact that he is going to be in your life to a degree because you have children together.

Therapy will also help you with how to talk to your children when the questions come up about why does Mom and Dad not live together etc .. Answering these questions correctly to kids is necessary so that down the road they dont have problems understanding it all.

Im sorry this has happened to you but you are a very strong person and you will find your footing and have a wonderful life despite how he has hurt you so deeply

[ptangptang]

If he ' wants nothing more to do with me' and has left you with 3 kids maybe you should think harder about what sort of person he is.. Is there anything you haven't told us.?

[glok]

Hello, DianaMariemad.

Coping with Grief and Loss: Support for Grieving and Bereavement
Complicated grief

I wish you well.