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Sep 28, 2014 at 06:11 PM
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All I want is a boyfriend. All I've ever wanted is a boyfriend. I'm 19 and i still have never dated anyone. I wanna be that sweet name they call. I want to get excited and happy when I talk to them and have them feel the same way when they talk to me. But I'm afraid I won't ever have a boyfriend because I'm too damn awkward, social anxiety always bites me in the *** when I'm trying to talk to people and being so detached makes it even harder. I hardly ever know what to talk about and can't keep convos flowing smoothly. It'd be nice to feel some Iove
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Sep 28, 2014 at 08:00 PM
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Get into group therapy for anxiety or a support group for social anxiety. It would help you not feel isolated, and eventually you would learn important skills.
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Sep 28, 2014 at 08:02 PM
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Sep 28, 2014 at 11:43 PM
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Hugs to you...it will come along.
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Sep 29, 2014 at 12:49 AM
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For several years I buried myself in my work because I got tried of been turned down or worse yet meeting a woman who has issues and trying to help her without helping myself. try finding a support group to help with the anxiety.
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Sep 29, 2014 at 03:46 AM
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Your day will come.
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Sep 29, 2014 at 02:50 PM
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I guarantee it will happen for you.
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Sep 29, 2014 at 11:09 PM
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How do you guys know this ? Don't people hate awko tacos like me ? Whose gonna wanna continue to talk to me when I can't hold a conversation for more than two minutes ???
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Sep 29, 2014 at 11:10 PM
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@dwalshy @robot jones @lilypup ^^^^^
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Sep 29, 2014 at 11:15 PM
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I was 24 when I had my first boyfriend. I was so elated that I married him 3 months after we met which was a huge mistake.
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Sep 30, 2014 at 12:52 AM
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Sep 30, 2014 at 02:29 AM
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Because the world is full of diverse people and it's likely you'll meet a bloke who feels just the same or one who will help you to feel more comfortable. All things pass and how you're feeling now will.
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Sep 30, 2014 at 02:55 AM
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I would put the focus on me, myself & I. Take care of You first. First of all, stop looking. Join clubs & do fun activities alone, or with family & friends. Don't wait to live your life, until you're in a relationship. Live it. I didn't met my husband until I was in my late 20s. I was almost 30 when we married & he was in his 40s. First marriage for both of us. I was very picky about whom I was gonna spend the rest of my life with. I was worth it. My husband found my independence very attractive. *big warm frienship hug* That's just me.
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Sep 30, 2014 at 10:09 AM
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There are dating sites , put a picture up and tell them a bit about yourself and say your shy so they know what to expect when they meet you in person . Most inportanly be honest with them and let them know , heres the deal this is me like me or not .
Oh and .. Don't fall for the first guy who who wants you or you will regret it . Date different guys , be with someone because you want to not because you don't want to be alone . |
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Sep 30, 2014 at 04:03 PM
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Young men can be rather nervous of women and assume a shy, taciturn lass is thus because she does not like them. But if you get them talking about themselves they can generally keep the conversation up without much help for longer than you might imagine. If you can avoid looking totally bored, the ones worth having will eventually become sufficiently intrigued to ask you about you.
I did have the most terrible trouble with this sort of thing in my distant youth being absurdly shy, but in my early twenties my career took me to the big city, and becoming somewhat desperate and knowing no one in the metropolis, I used the personal ads to find dates - it was huge fun and I met many really great young women, if not find love. But it kind of boosted my vestigial dating skills so I was ready when the real thing came along! |
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Sep 30, 2014 at 07:11 PM
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Sep 30, 2014 at 07:22 PM
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Well, I guess this is where I come in to say that I was 22 or something before I had my first relationship. Hope you find someone, soon. There are guys out there that can be understanding to these things; I can only hope that there are such women out there, too! I have social anxiety, myself, so I think I relate. I feel like a "bad egg", but ah well. I think I have more going for me than I used to, and I'm always working on myself in some way, be it intellectually, physically, or just as progress through life. Try to be patient... work on you, as well.
I've been single for 5 or so years, I think... or 4, ... IDK, a while. I've taken all this time to heal after the last relationship, to get my head better, and to progress a bit further in life, moved out of my parent's house, got CBT, tried out a volunteer job, am in college, gradually working towards being an IT Technician. I'm back to working out a lot to get myself looking how I want to. I'm working on me as much as I can. __________________ { Kein Teufel }
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