[mccr9040]

My husband was addicted to pornography..he swore he stopped...I even compromised and just asked that he not do it while I was asleep or anywhere near the children. Well I kept having the feeling he was doing it constantly he would call me crazy and say I was being paranoid. Since I had no proof I considered that maybe it was an anxiety issue and began taking Prozac....well months later I wake up and not only is he doing while I'm sleep he's doing it in the kids bathroom near their bedrooms. After he was caught he said he had to do it cuz he just likes to jack off and I'm not sensual enough....I'm past that but I feel violated that he encouraged me to medicate myself and let me believe I had a mental disorder when he just keptbright on doing his thing...should in just get over it?

[ChipperMonkey]

Just get over it? No. Your husband has an addiction and needs treatment, just as he would if he had an alcohol or drug addiction. Is he in therapy? If not, it may be time for an ultimatum.

I am not against pornography as long as it isn't to excess, isn't an addiction, and doesn't interfere with a couples sex life. Your husband has clearly crossed this line.

Don't just brush it under the rug. He is gaslighting you....its a pretty scary concept, but essentially it involves making you think that you are the crazy one because of his behavior. Your husband even went so far as to encourage you to medicate yourself! This is COMPLETELY unacceptable! Psychiatric drugs are not to be taken lightly, and your husband is so addicted that he rather have you go on medication and risk bad side effects all because he has an addiction. Don't put up with his behavior. He needs to fix himself.

[A Red Panda]

If you have to go around lying and hiding something from your spouse, then there's an issue. And it isn't with you.

Sure, you were worrying without any evidence - that can in fact show anxiety. The fact that you happened to be right does confuse things... but your anxiety was there without any actual "proof".

Now you've got proof though... and I wouldn't be surprised if your anxiety increased, because now you know that you've been lied to and that he was more alright with you taking medication than being honest with you!