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Oct 27, 2014 at 06:04 PM
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icecream and sad movies? go out for drinks with friends?
Is there a secret cure to getting over someone? Time doesn't seem to be healing anything for me. Neither does dating other people. How do you deal with the one who got away? 
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Oct 27, 2014 at 06:13 PM
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Sadly there are no rules for this kind of thing, we all process loss differently. What I would say is, do things that make you happy, spend time with friends and family (if that's an option) be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve. I know you say it wont help, but honestly, time really is the greatest healer and with time, the intensity of what you feel, will lessen. Sending you hugs 
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Oct 27, 2014 at 06:51 PM
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Oh mommaxo, I so understand you right now. I am going through the same thing, and it hasn't been two months yet. It sucks. It hurts.
I don't have anything to say besides lots of hugs to you, and I hope you feel better soon.
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Oct 27, 2014 at 08:16 PM
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I just googled "dealing with the one that got away." It came up with some interesting and probably informative information. I didn't exactly read any of the articles. But it looks like there's lots and lots of information out there on the internet on how to heal heartbreak. 3 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart - wikiHow
I wish you luck and I give you hugs. I know what it's like.
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Oct 27, 2014 at 10:19 PM
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I'm so confused. Weren't you just posting about dating while pregnant?
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Oct 28, 2014 at 01:07 PM
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Try and get back in touch with yourself and your interests. Get involved in social activities whether it is volunteering or spending time with friends. Join a gym where its socially acceptable to spend hours upon hours of time solo.
For me I decided to take up a new talent (jiu jitsu) and found that I made tons of valuable connections that supported me, boosted my outlook on life and gave me a healthy distraction even for a few hours a day. Sometimes the best response to getting burned is to live a good and fulfilling life. If anything you can look back and know that you did something good for yourself during a tough time. |
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Oct 29, 2014 at 09:14 PM
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we were together for awhile, lived together, engaged, and made plans to get married, and get a house together. we broke up on horrible terms, and never really had any closure. it wasn't a mutual thing. i'm still unfortunetely not over him, as he was my first love, and i still love him, and miss him. why is there some unwritten rule somewhere were your not allowed to miss a previous lover because your pregnant? lol. |
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Oct 29, 2014 at 09:29 PM
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I'm sorry. Please don't underestimate the power that mommy hormones have. They do NOT help ANYTHING......
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Oct 30, 2014 at 12:21 PM
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Try to imagine the pro 's regarding the breakup: less stress and anxiety? More time to do what you want? No one to interfere with how you want to raise your child? I know this is hard, but you have to open up alternative neurotransmitters in your brain. If you are stuck in the "this sucks" mindset, it will take a lot longer to get over it. And remember that depression is one grieving process step away from acceptance. You will never forget your love, but perhaps you can accept the situation.
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Oct 30, 2014 at 08:01 PM
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Most break ups are left with no closure, sad but true. Write a letter to him, tell him all the ways you are hurt, mad, and pissed off, Let it all out.. Them burn the letter !
It can be helpful when trying to make sense of it all. There are so many stages in life. Only you can make closure happen for yourself. Focus your attention on your baby. That is the best distraction in the world. I'm not sure how far along you are , But maybe start preparing the nursery, pick up a adorable outfit here and there, and of course the cutest most adorable stuffed animal on the planet. Seems most all mommies do that, I know I did  Things will get much easier. __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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Nov 05, 2014 at 03:37 PM
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