[TimeToKnow]

My friend has a found out some information and is not sure what to do with it. My friend told me he thinks his wife is having an inappropriate relationship with her Psych doc. He feels his wife is more interested in her Psych doc than she is him. He told me she googles her doc, emails him, snoops dating sites he is on and talks to her psych doc about things that she should be talking to him about. He found out all these details from one of her friends. She was concerned and thought he should know. Her friend told my friend that she has a huge crush on her doc as well. He also told me that his wife has become very flirtatious at work and school (night school). He has told me they rarely have sex. He is very distraught and doesn't know what to do.They have had a rough road the past few years, but he thought they were on the right track the past year or so. They have been together for over 20 years and have 2 kids. I told him I would get some opinions. What do you think?

[Alone & confused]

That's a hard one to answer. But, as a woman, I can say that (for me) if I start to have feelings for someone other than who I'm with, it's usually because I've felt an alienation of affection from the one I'm with. Be it emotional, physical, or a lack of common interests. It's easy to start to feel things for another who takes an interest in you, when your partner has forgotten how, or fails to up keep your "needs". I would start by asking your friend if anything has changed in the relationship, and have him ask Her if she it's fulfilled by him. Maybe he could try to "rekindle" what they had by doing the things that he did to win her heart to begin with. People get comfortable after awhile and simply take each other for granted, and often just stop trying to keep the sparks going, and then the flame dies out. Hope this helps.