[kala83]

so this is supper annoying and I have no idea how to deal with this situation.

its gone on in certain groups of my boyfriend's friends now for the entire first year we have been together.

I end up feeling filled out...and viewed in a very judgmental way...when around him by some of his social circle this is hard on the both of us. cause in a lot of ways it makes my boyfriend want to defend me but at the same time it puts us both in a hard situation cause....

a lot of these friends of his he has known and been around for a fairly long time of his life.

we are both getting a lack of communication from these people as to why we are being judged for our own personal lives which should be our own decision.
personally I think I have a harder time dealing with this due to the fact of that i am dealing with more stress then usual dealing with my ptsd. and the fact I have bad anxiety issues... lol a lot of which come from social anxiety to boot does not help either.

some of these people put judgments on me due to not actions of my own but due to actions of other people they know....though me and other friend I used to associate with and now do not.

I suppouse the best thing to do would be to start entirely over....and make new friends....as scary a thought that can be as well.

[curley]

Hi Kala, From what you are saying, I agree, start over. There are enough people in the world that judge us for WHATEVER reason. You certainly don't need people that say they are your friend to make judgments about you, your boyfriend, the way you live or don't live! Besides, who are they to judge.
If they do not want to accept you both for who you are....move on!!

[kala83]

I wish I could just not be effected by this dumb childish behavior but it just keeps coming up. Some of his friends like me other don't. I can live with that. But what is harder is one of these people is someone he lives with right now. I feel so much dread and anxiety being there. I am also empathic so if his roommate is at home I pick up on his uncomfertable ness being around me. And th's fact he makes it very clear he dislikes me simply do to how I act and how I am. And if I come over to see my boyfriend. I am pretty much forced to interact with him. It's even gotten to the point for my boyfriend that he is un sure if he wants to be around such a person