[bennyandthejets3306]

I accidentally met my first boyfriend online about 6 months ago.
It wasn't an instant connection/attraction, but the more we spoke, the more I liked him. After a couple months he flew from Australia to meet me, and we spent two weeks talking, fighting, laughing, and fell for each other very quickly.
I've only told my sibling and close friends about it, because I can't help but feel embarrassed and afraid to tell my parents. We have different religions as well. He recently told me he already plans to marry me and wants to give me a promise ring.
I fancy myself a kind of smart person sometimes, and I'm surprised at myself that all this has happened to me. Its scary that I can't identify my feelings for him, but I can't deny them either.
Any outside thoughts or views would be much appreciated!

[kaliope]

my advice is to not rush into it as you are still ambivalent. until you are certain about your feelings and no longer feel embarrassed and scared to tell your parents, this would be indicative that you are still unclear about the relationship. if it is meant to be, you would know it with your whole heart and these feelings and uncertainties wouldn't be here.

[ChipperMonkey]

Take it slow. Someone is going to need to move at some point, but before that happens, make sure you have a trial run of being together (living together) of at least 3 months at the very minimum. I've seen too many horror stories of long distance relationships that fall apart once they hang out for more than a little while. You need to be around each other long enough to experience each other's quirks, especially the ones that happen in private! LOL.

wow .. he sure seems to be in a rush to marry you , dose this not raise a bell ?
At some point in time you will have to tell your parents and I am sure your afraid that they will not approve not just because you met him on line but you have not even had him meet your parents . And he lives in another country , that is huge .

Is he wanting to come to the USA or dose he want you to pack everything and move to Australia ? Are you willing to leave everything you know and love behind if he ask you to live with him there ?

Thease are hard questions you need to think about ..
If you both do not believe in the same religion that can cause huge fights , when you decide to have kids .

Sounds like your not ready and you need to make sure this is what you want and not feel pushed or rushed into it .

What dose your sibling and your close friends say about this ?

[~Christina]

You say this is your first boyfriend ? and have only known him 6 months ? How old are you? and him? When he came to visit you in Florida where did he stay?

What does your sibling and friends have to say?

I would advise you to just s l o w things down.

[bennyandthejets3306]

Originally Posted by Nature1968

wow .. he sure seems to be in a rush to marry you , dose this not raise a bell ?
At some point in time you will have to tell your parents and I am sure your afraid that they will not approve not just because you met him on line but you have not even had him meet your parents . And he lives in another country , that is huge .

Is he wanting to come to the USA or dose he want you to pack everything and move to Australia ? Are you willing to leave everything you know and love behind if he ask you to live with him there ?

Thease are hard questions you need to think about ..
If you both do not believe in the same religion that can cause huge fights , when you decide to have kids .

Sounds like your not ready and you need to make sure this is what you want and not feel pushed or rushed into it .

What dose your sibling and your close friends say about this ?

1. He would prefer to stay there, but said he would move here if I asked.
2. And I'm not sure, he said its years down the line, so there's no force.
3. My friends say go for it but be cautious, which seems to be the resounding verdict lol

Thanks for the input!

[bennyandthejets3306]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

You say this is your first boyfriend ? and have only known him 6 months ? How old are you? and him? When he came to visit you in Florida where did he stay?

What does your sibling and friends have to say?

I would advise you to just s l o w things down.

Yes, my first. I have been approached by guys and went out a few times, but this is my first relationship. And yes, six months. I'm 20 and he's 25. When he came to Florida, he stayed in a hotel for two weeks.

My friends and sibling approve of it, and give the same caution.
And thank you for the advice

[healingme4me]

The one thing that stood out to me, was mentioning fighting during your first meeting. What's there, to fight over, especially so soon?

Originally Posted by bennyandthejets3306

1. He would prefer to stay there, but said he would move here if I asked.
2. And I'm not sure, he said its years down the line, so there's no force.
3. My friends say go for it but be cautious, which seems to be the resounding verdict lol

Thanks for the input!

That's good to know ^ sounds like it just might work
I wish you both the best .