[Hellion]

So basically I do spend quite a bit of time with my brother and we tend to get along pretty well. Though we sort of get into arguments about stuff, sometimes like the same sort of things over and over. Basically I really care about my brother and enjoy spending time with him, but based on some arguments we have got in I sometimes have behaviors that bother him...and when he explains it I get where he is coming from and why whatever it is is bothersome, but initially if he mentions something that bothers him that I did I get really defensive and that is not fair to him. So yeah I don't know just don't want to screw up the decent sibling relationship we have by coming off as a jerk. Not really sure where I am going with this but just not sure what to do. Also I always feel like if something he does really bother me or whatever I never know how to bring it up....I don't know we get along good most of the time but just bothers me.

[Little Lulu]

I know you've heard this before but no relationship is without struggles. Those closest to us can be the most difficult to navigate because we care about them more.

Maybe at the heart of the issue is your fear of losing your brother's love if the two of you cannot resolve an issue. Based on what you have said here, it sounds like the two of you are doing pretty good. You can work on your side of the fence by trying to monitoring your own reactions, make amends when you need to, and speak up when it seems appropriate but ... you are never going to do it perfectly and so what. You may frustrate him at times but I bet he isn't going anywhere.

[Hellion]

I guess it is also true I get frustrated at him, I guess I could be over-thinking it. I suppose it would make sense people who are close are going to bother each other sometimes. But yeah I always get worried about screwing up or being unpleasant enough to where people who care would stop caring, but not sure why I think people would be so hard on me...I wouldn't be that hard on my brother or other people I care about if they screwed up somehow...might get angry but wouldn't cut ties like I fear people would do to me.