Okay so I know this person I only consider an acquaintance but she acts like we are best friends. This is someone totally different, not the same person I have mentioned in previous threads. This person has been a nuisance to me for the past five years at college, although there was a time where she barely talked to me and was actually moving on and talking to other people but now all the sudden she is clinging to me again, probably because she has no other friends here. She is very arrogant, always acts like she is right and knows everything, acts very stuck up and puts people down and judges them based off her own assumptions that have no factual evidence behind them. For example, she just assumes people who talk a lot have Aspergers Syndrome or guys that don't act all macho and old fashioned are gay or something and also constantly backstabs other people I hang around saying they complain too, meanwhile she does the same thing. She is also very nosy and likes to know everyone's business. And she gets mad when I ignore her texts, I have been doing this for almost as long as I have been here to hint to her that I am not interested in being friends with her, especially someone who is arrogant, stuck up, and puts other people down to make herself feel better. She also uses her disability as an excuse to use others as well. Recently she has called me fake in order to guilt trip me to hanging out with her against my will and anytime I try to get her to stop annoying me, she gets pissed off and annoys me more or just goes away and then will text me saying how fake I'm acting. I don't understand what I could be doing wrong, maybe I am not being firm enough, or maybe she just has trouble getting the hint. Not sure but she will not just stop being a pain and I need advice to get her to stop. I wish there was a way for her to realize that I don't consider her a friend at all and wish she would leave me alone and keep all contact short and sweet. I can only tolerate her in very small doses, perhaps minutes at a time. And when she is around to talk, all she does is gossip and complain. I thought I gave pretty clear hints that would make her realize that I don't like her as a friend but I guess either she doesn't realize that or just doesn't care. Just wish she would leave me alone especially since she calls me fake every time I want her to leave me alone. Very rude of her in my opinion. Don't understand. Any suggestions? Just confused.

[Ruftin]

ryanLRC2015, May I suggest some tough love. Tell her exactly what you posted here and be firm. "I don't mind keeping in touch but lets limit it to short texts." "I need to focus on my studies." It may sting for a second but hopefully she will take the hint and move on. Best wishes!!

Originally Posted by Ruftin

ryanLRC2015, May I suggest some tough love. Tell her exactly what you posted here and be firm. "I don't mind keeping in touch but lets limit it to short texts." "I need to focus on my studies." It may sting for a second but hopefully she will take the hint and move on. Best wishes!!

I may even be more firm than that (but I can be kind of a B sometimes so, take it as you will). If she is truly as toxic as you are claiming, I would tell her that you do not appreciate negativity, school is tough enough as it is and you need friendships that are building up not tearing down. And that (as Ruftin said) you need to focus on your studies. Tell her you don't feel that your current interactions are healthy for either of you, and that you think they need to come to an end--that you will no longer be interacting with her via text or otherwise. It's difficult, but I've been in her shoes, and it's necessary. She is hurting--hurting people hurt people--but that doesn't mean that you need to be the one to save her if she is a toxic influence in your life. You don't need to be mean, just firm. And if she starts being nasty to you for standing your ground, walk away. I mean, literally get up and leave. As I said, school is tough enough without dealing with BS. Good luck.

[~Christina]

It's perfectly fine to be blunt and explain to her that you do not want to be friends. Period, Sure its not something easy to do. But you can't allow Toxic people to make a place in your life when all it does is hurt you emotionally.

I myself have to cut someone out of my life in the next few days. She is bringing me down and I can't allow someone to consume my life with everything being all about "her" .

We are responsible for keeping ourselves healthy, and yes sometimes that takes removing people from out lives.

Good luck , Be strong and direct and do not back down.

[Bill3]

And she gets mad when I ignore her texts

Recently she has called me fake in order to guilt trip me to hanging out with her against my will and anytime I try to get her to stop annoying me, she gets pissed off and annoys me more or just goes away and then will text me saying how fake I'm acting.

It seems that you have some difficulty tolerating this person being upset with you.

What makes it difficult to tolerate her being mad at you? What brings you to hang out with her against your will?

If it is too difficult to speak to her, then my own suggestion is to block her texts and block/unfriend her on all other media.

[CosmicRose]

You don't understand what you're doing wrong? Well, you're texting her back and responding to her. That's what you're doing wrong. Tell her kindly that you are busy every time she asks if you don't want to completely ignore her. "Busy, sorry, bye." COME HANG OUT "Busy sorry." Eventually she'll get the hint. Or just be like "Listen I dont think we should hang out anymore, I'm really busy with studies and with work." Say something like that and just try to avoid her.