[datafox]

My girlfriend is bipolar. She broke up with me a few weeks ago. She had broken up with me more than once over things that most other people I know feel shouldn't be that serious.

The first time was that she didn't want to walk with me to the train station the morning of a big event she had to go to.She was really stressed out that day too. I have a serious vision problem and I thought I would feel more secure if someone walked with me as I didn't know the area all that well. The event was a few hours from then. The train station was 10 minutes away. I got a little upset that she was so angry. I wound up going by myself anyway.

A couple of weeks later she broke up with me because of that. She broke up with me at a bus stop on our way too a movie theater. She still wanted to go to the movies afterwards. She was mad for weeks and then we got back together after she apologized.

The second time was after she got back from a spontaneous 3 month trip to a foreign country. She broke up with me because when she was coming back I almost didn't go to the airport to pick her up. I almost didn't go because I had to study for an exam that I was having the next evening. However, I went, and helped with her luggage and everything. I don't drive so she didn't need me to pick her up, yet she thinks that without me she would have been stranded.

She broke up with me again because of that one. She then still wanted me to go with her to a family members supporting event the next day.

She was having some hallucinations while she was away. She didn't have the proper amount of medication while she was there. We were even thinking that her medication wasn't working all that well to begin with. When she starts to get a little manic she thinks that every discussion err disagree about it a fight. She blows up at me and says mean things. Her eyes change to an intense green color, she's very irritable and says that I'm too depressing, which was another reason she blew up at me.

Just wondering if this is normal. Should someone still be after after almost a month?

Hello datafox: It just sounds to me as though your girlfriend is pretty-much not in control of her emotions. Perhaps either the amounts of the med's she's taking are incorrect, or they're ineffective, or she's not taking them consistently. And as a result she blows up at trivialities & her perspective with regard to such things as you picking her up at the airport, when you don't drive. is skewed.

My off-the-cuff opinion, for what it's worth is that this is a relationship that is not working. There's a saying I use occasionally here on PC. "If you want to know which way the bullet's going, look down the barrel of the gun." If you go back & re-read what you wrote here, you'll be able to see where this relationship is headed.

You asked if this is normal. Unfortunately, it may not be that far from the norm. But that doesn't make it healthy. I don't know how serious this relationship is. If it is just casual, it may be just as well to put it on the back burner, as they say. If this is a serious relationship that you want to see expand & endure, then I would suggest that perhaps the two of you consider participating in some couples therapy to help the two you to understand each other better & to learn more effective communications skills. Your gf may, perhaps also want to have her med's reviewed. If perchance you or your gf are not open to participating in these kinds of efforts, here again, this may be a signal that both of you need to reevaluate how much more time & energy you want to put into the relationship. Good luck.

[Chillly]

It's a toxic relationship.
Although I'm sure there are many more intricacies involved. Base level, it sounds toxic

[BobbyDavis]

I hate to say it but it is probably for the best she broke up you and I would suggest avoiding her from now on and moving on with your life because she is toxic as another member stated and if you try to stay with her things are only going to get worse. I don’t know that much about Bipolar but one of my friends briefly dated a guy with it that emotionally abused her and she told me one of the best things she ever did was leave him.