so, my (ex) boyfriend & I have been texting. he finally said why we broke up.

all the things we have been thru made him scared that I'm gonna be like his ex girlfriend.

his ex put him thru ALOT. from the fights they had (that's all they did), she constantly cheated on him & she had an abortion with a child of his.

I asked if he's still in love with me. (he told me he wasn't when we broke up)... he said "i think i am cuz of how miserable I really am" he's not sure why he's feeling like this & he doesn't understand it. and to give him time.

Saturday night, he told me he missed me, he still loves me & even called me his wife. and that he made a big mistake. which took him ALOT to admit. he's not one to share his emotions until ready.

so what should I do? wait or move on? part of me says to let it go, another part says to give it time... ugh.

Only you can answer this question , we don't know him like you do

[healingme4me]

Dunno. Depends on the nature of what brought about a break, whether this is turning into a relationship pattern, and whether he can sort through what makes him have any indicators of how exactly you may remind him of his ex.

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i think that's why hes hesitant to jump back into a relationship, he's said this stuff. actually today he said he wants to get back together but its like he shys away from it

[~Christina]

I'm not sure about the whole time line , I havent been able to read your different posts to get a good timeline..

Maybe you could add a response here that is kinda "start to the up to date now?" Might be helpful in getting more specific advice .

I will try to go back and find the previous posts

[vantonius]

The most important thing that u can do is to think what u gonna do if u do wait.. how long u gonna wait and if u two does get back together.. what u gonna do if he freak out again and this happen again ?
After u find all those answer and u feel like u can accept all the consequences... ull know either u should let him go or give him more time..
Wish u all the best

[Bill3]

What caused the fights that you had with him?

the timeline has been maybe since November? its been the same fights too. we been texting, he seems to be opening up more. he said he wants to be together but no more fights. part of me is actually cautious about this.

he even said last night "you're always there for me & i lost you" ... guilty?

and what caused the fights were insecurities on both parts. Facebook, talking to guys/girls. def needs to be worked on

[Bill3]

part of me is actually cautious about this

Would you be willing to explain this a bit further?

yeaa that's fine

[Bill3]

yeaa that's fine

I'm sorry, I am not sure that I understand. Are you saying that you don't want to explain what you are cautious about?

about jumping back into this, afraid that he's gonna just do that whole break up thing again to me

[Bill3]

Facebook, talking to guys/girls. def needs to be worked on

How might you and he work on this?

his ex put him thru ALOT. from the fights they had (that's all they did), she constantly cheated on him & she had an abortion with a child of his.

It is always tempting to blame the ex for whatever went wrong in a previous relationship.

we both have to start trusting more. I keep thinking that after every single thing we have been thru, he still wants to be with me.

and honestly, his ex put him thru ALOT. I witnessed it. so I do understand about that. he doesn't wanna repeat of it