[Steiner of Thule]

Heh, probably. Never been in a relationship. Gets real lonely at times. I don't think I'm very ugly physically but maybe I am. I know I have problems socializing with others and that can put a real dent. Maybe I am hoping to meet someone online where I find everything about them to be amazing and making me shake in anticipation. Probably not gonna happen.

I am shallow and won't accept anyone so I shouldn't expect it of girls. I don't think most people settle but I wonder if I would have to if I don't want to be alone anymore. Whether it be someone I don't find physically attractive or someone I do find attractive but only use them for sex because they have a poor emotional attitude. Though I never really get chicks I find attractive. I usually get the ones I find to be very unattractive but I do like their personality. (Then again I usually just get chicks whom I dislike everything about but they like me. I then feel guilty about having turned them down and feeling even attraction to them afterwards because I can't have them and I am also pretty damn lonely.)

First thing you want to do is stop using woman for sex , what happens if you get her knocked up ?
Now your stuck with her and an unwanted child for 18 years ...

Have you joined any dating sites , that is the best place to start , you can see what they look like and see if there is any spark .

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Nature1968

First thing you want to do is stop using woman for sex , what happens if you get her knocked up ?
Now your stuck with her and an unwanted child for 18 years ...

Have you joined any dating sites , that is the best place to start , you can see what they look like and see if there is any spark .

I've never even had sex. Or gone on a date.

I've just been looking at craigslist and I am a bit too shy to really post my pic. I never really message anyone. I mean I have okay attributes. I should be good right? I don't know. Dating sites just seem like a thing for sex. To be honest I'm probably not ready yet. Girls usually expect you to have your own place, your own car, and lots of cash when it comes to online dating. I've just been focusing on improving myself physically and I'm getting there but I'm not quite at the finish line. I mean I'm even getting ready to go back to college but still- it seems they have too much expectations and I just don't want to put myself out there and get shot down. I don't have an amazing job. Just starting on education. No money really. Probably not very good looks. I fail in most of the departments I guess. No house of my own. No car of my own.

U have to put yourself out there if you don't want to be lonely ..
If your going back to college , hello that is a great place to meet woman and if your shy , then smile a lot and there will be a girl that will know your shy and will go up to you .

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Nature1968

U have to put yourself out there if you don't want to be lonely ..
If your going back to college , hello that is a great place to meet woman and if your shy , then smile a lot and there will be a girl that will know your shy and will go up to you .

All of the classes I'm taking are online though :Z I kind of do want to go somewhere where I can meet with actual physical people but what I am going for is like all online classes. It's a weird situation that I'm not really sure how to explain. I hate being shy and anxious and yeah you're probably right I should smile more. I have girls in the store when I am shopping with my mom telling me to smile more. That I should be happy. Perhaps I should try to go out more by myself since I usually never go out on my own. I have a weird dependency of having to have someone there with me that can like communicate for me. I dunno, I hate myself a lot.

U need to work on you first before even dating anyone your not ready , if you hate yourself how will you accept love from anyone ?

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Nature1968

U need to work on you first before even dating anyone your not ready , if you hate yourself how will you accept love from anyone ?

It's not that I hate myself really, it's more like I hate how I am I guess. Anxious and unsociable. Wanting to go out but then not wanting to. I feel confused.

You have to push yourself out there , step outside the contort zone

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Nature1968

You have to push yourself out there , step outside the contort zone

So where else is a good place to go? I dunno maybe I should just focus on school. I live in a small town so it's mainly all old people. I was thinking I could go to the library but I think it's empty usually. I also don't really read that much. It just seems like I am expected to have everything while I have nothing. Hm.

Yes focus on school that will help you get a job , that pays good .
You want to be able to make a living ..
I would stick with online dating and CL if you live in a small town
Put your picture up and smile on a dating site , so that way the woman will know what you look like .
Look in your local news paper and see if you find any singles dance

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Nature1968

Yes focus on school that will help you get a job , that pays good .
You want to be able to make a living ..
I would stick with online dating and CL if you live in a small town
Put your picture up and smile on a dating site , so that way the woman will know what you look like .
Look in your local news paper and see if you find any singles dance

Craigslist makes me feel rather hopeless. I honestly don't expect to use it for finding people. I just like to check it for no reason. Wish I could just bump into someone. I feel like going to things to find people will just end up with me trying to talk to a lot of undesirables. Not to say people are objects. A singles dance isn't a bad idea. I just don't like the idea of putting myself *out there* with my face and everything. I just feel like online dating is a way of saying, "I give up. I am an undesirable person." I know it doesn't mean that but that is what it feels like to me.

Giving up ... is doing nothing , and expecting something ...
Do something and expect something

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Nature1968

Giving up ... is doing nothing , and expecting something ...
Do something and expect something

Yeah I've made a profile before but I never attached my photo. It was also the most negative sounding profile because I just don't have anything to list and I was more depressed then I think. Maybe i'll meet someone someday. At least until after I am completely independent with everything. They always seem to say you shouldn't need to have anything but it's always the complete opposite. I feel like I am supposed to be completely set up in life before anyone will even look at me.

[Ruminati]

Your avatar and profile are cool but they suggest youre a girl to me.

You'll meet someone. Make friends with people first with no agenda and who knows what will happen.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Ruminati

Your avatar and profile are cool but they suggest youre a girl to me.

You'll meet someone. Make friends with people first with no agenda and who knows what will happen.

Ah. Why does it seem that way. Cause of the girl avatar? Doesn't seem that feminine to me but then again I'm not really trying to prove to people that I am male.

I usually make friends and that's about all I get haha. Most things disintegrating rather quickly.

[Ruminati]

you never know there might be someone floating about on this forum that you get that certain kind of chemistry with.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Ruminati

you never know there might be someone floating about on this forum that you get that certain kind of chemistry with.

Always a possibility. *nod nod* Not very likely though.