[Toxie55]

I have know a guy for 2 years. he started a very flirtatious and sexual
relationship with me. When he returns to the area he starts again and is so possessive of me and we do have a connection. He has been gone for about 4 months- I have not heard from him for that long. Last time he told me that I was not to be with another man and that he would always come back to me so I should trust that.
He has been like a friend in other ways but does not think of us as just friends.
I am in love with him. He is smart, hardworking and don't think he would lie to me.
I sen an email and did not receive on back so I deleted mine. I want to communicate with him, we used to all the time so well. I feel that each day is
a struggle, no simple answers but would appreciate others input.

[Jolisse]

No contact for 4 months would make me think he's not that interested. I wouldn't wait around for this guy to show up when he feels like it. Move on with your life and find a guy, who will be there for you.

[gayleggg]

Something just isn't right about his not contacting you for four months and expecting you to just wait until he's ready to bounce back into your life. He does not sound like a very caring person. Unless there is a good reason he hasn't contacted you in so long I would move on.

[Toxie55]

After knowing someone for this long, I really thought he cared. He could at least answer an email if it is over. In the past he got so angry if I try to break it off.
He comes and goes in this area for different areas. I am so hurtful and crying alot.
I have thought of moving, I am in the process of interviewing for jobs which will be good.
I am putting things on famebook so he can see I am going out with groups with males go
too. I feel like trying to call him because this much time has been invested in this.
The facebook page is his work so everyone will know since he does not answer.

[Rose3]

So you and he were acquainted with each other for 2 years - but you haven't heard from him in 4 months. 4 months seems like a long time to not hear from someone. If he has chosen not to respond to you, then likely you cannot make him change his mind. Has something happened to him? Maybe he found someone else in his new location? Yes - you could try to call him. And that might be a way to speak with him and get some answers. Look after yourself - and it sounds like you are making your own plans about jobs and other activities.

You need to put you first and stop putting yourself on the back burner , This guy could be living a double life if you have not heard from him for 4 months yet he wants you not to date other men ?
Your trying to get him jealous by posting pic of you going out with other guys , but that will backfire because he has moved on and your wasting your time .
Have you even called him , or do you only e-mail him ?

4 months is long, very long it seems nice in movies when ppl wait for a year and stuff but in real life not. I think he has moved on

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Toxie55

I have know a guy for 2 years. he started a very flirtatious and sexual
relationship with me. When he returns to the area he starts again and is so possessive of me and we do have a connection. He has been gone for about 4 months- I have not heard from him for that long. Last time he told me that I was not to be with another man and that he would always come back to me so I should trust that.
He has been like a friend in other ways but does not think of us as just friends.
I am in love with him. He is smart, hardworking and don't think he would lie to me.
I sen an email and did not receive on back so I deleted mine. I want to communicate with him, we used to all the time so well. I feel that each day is
a struggle, no simple answers but would appreciate others input.

I suggest you drop this man. "Last time he told me that I was not to be with another man and that he would always come back to me so I should trust that." Even if he is on secret missions for the government, you must decide for yourself if this is the way you want to live. For me, the answer would be no. Please stop throwing your life away.

[Toxie55]

Since it It was going on for so long , I am going to call him, since I email him only.
I did call him finally
and said I hoped that he was okay and doing well.
I just said I was concerned and worried about him
Thanks I will let you know

j

[Toxie55]

No word from him yet. I am doing my best to let it go and move on.
I may move soon to save money but I can't take on too much at once.
If I told you how he was with me you wouldn't believe it- possessive/about everything.
It is only a few days , maybe he will call. so sad about it. He was a good friend believe
it or not.

[Toxie55]

Originally Posted by Toxie55

No word from him yet. I am doing my best to let it go and move on.
I may move soon to save money but I can't take on too much at once.
If I told you how he was with me you wouldn't believe it- possessive/about everything.
It is only a few days , maybe he will call. so sad about it. He was a good friend believe it or not.

I am so perplexed by him.
I /rescheduled therapy appt. because she is always telling me I am doing so much better. /I am not sure how she came to this conclusion, I miss him so much and can't talk about it in therapy.
I need to find a job, have been interviewing, I try to get out by volunteering.
I think I need to take small steps. My psyc increased wellbutrin. I have to walk more often like before when he followed me much to my delight.

[avlady]

Good luck

[~Christina]

I think THIS situation should be what your working on in Therapy.

How the jerk feels he can just come and go outta your life on a whim? No I'm sorry hes playing some kinda game or maybe has numerous people he does this too. That guy sounds like a complete ***.

Grieve the loss of the love you felt for him working in Therapy. Learn what a healthy relationship is like , Love and Respect and Honesty.