[Better_bean]

I really have a dream of being a runner, and maybe, just maybe, a fitness model. My boyfriend says I don't need to run, don't need to lose weight, etc. the thing is, I want to do it for me.

The only problem is I want to do it even more now that he has his habits that I cannot stand. He knows how much I dislike his unhealthy habits, and doesn't care to change. So I figure, why can't I do what I want?

Is this a bad way to go about things? I'm not doing it for revenge per se, I just figure if he doesn't care what I think, why should I.

[lkbun14]

I think you should go and do it and if he loves you, he'll support you in whatever you decide to do. I've spent a long time not doing the things I wanted because of negativity in my life and I regret it. You have to do things for YOU! I know it's easier said than done, I'm still trying to get the nerve/motivate myself to do minor things for myself somedays- but I'm always proud when I do!

[shezbut]

I think that if you're dreaming of being a healthy person, kudos to you! That's the way that I see it. You like running, run. Of course, wear supportive gear (good shoes, sports bra, reflective shorts, shirt, etc). Listen to your body. Don't push yourself too hard that you're struggling.

Not as a dream of becoming more attractive, because that medal becomes awfully hard to reach when you look at things from this angle.

[hvert]

If you want to run, just do it without thinking about it too much. It's a good thing to do!

I can see how you might want to do it in part to model good behavior to your BF, too -- so it makes sense to me that if his habits are unhealthy, you have even more desire to have good ones.