Why when we know we deserve better, don't we do better?

Why when we know we deserve better, don't we do better?

Why do we settle? Why do we chase someone and yearn for someone who doesn't want us in the same capacity as we want them?

There is a guy.. I may be in love. He isn't bad to me but he isn't good to me either. He is emotionally unavailable, I know I deserve better but I can't seem to let go.

Why is it so hard to let go, when we know we want and deserve better?

JeanneDoe, this is a great question. It is like we see a certain pattern and we attach to it. Does not matter if we get hurt.

A lot depends on whether we are looking for a companion or looking for a solution to all our problems.

Another aspect of the problem is judging ourselves and others. Makes it hard to see clearly.

Just rambling. Thanks for putting the question out there.

We are like bugs that go to the light and get zap

It seems that we are attracted to people who bring up issues from our earliest relationships, so that we can get a "re-do" and fix it. I am in a similar situation and I've geen working with my therapist to change how I react to this person, so I can learn from the experience. Good luck to you!