Should I post more pictures

My mother and I had a falling out. We havent had a healthy relationship for years, it took this falling out to open my eyes. I had no boundaries, she thought she still had to be my mother. Right now I'm not talking to her which I know is wrong but I'm not strong enough to open communication with her. She wants me to me wrong and I'm not strong enough to stand up to her when I need to. Even if I was I would just be told I was being mean selfish and a *****. Side note I really hate that word any more I've been called it a lot more than I deserve.

Anyway, when we had our fight they called me selfish. Now I don't live localy I was a lot further away and now I'm a few hours closer, I have 2 kids and I know my mom and my sister are mad I'm not closer. I used to tag them in all the pictures I post on social media and even go so far as to call my mom before I posted them to make sure she saw them first after she told me how rude it was that some one else commented first. Now I rarely post pictures, and when I do I feel guilty that my mom and sister aren't involved. I know that sounds nuts but I do, the selfish thing just rings I'm my head. My mom isn't even my "friend" on Facebook but I still feel this resposablitliy to make sure they are catered to first. I don't know, I'm just really struggling lately. I still take pictures and enjoy being a mother just hard for me to want to share anything in my life lately.

Thank you for reading this.

IMO it is not your job or responsibiltiy to make your mom or sister happy. it is your job to make you and your kids happy. post as many pictures as you want, if they want to seek them out, that is their job. christmas, birthdays, easter, mothers day...whenever you send a card, that is when you send pictures of your kids........she is their grandmother. it is your job to send pics a few times a year at least to keep her updated on their growth. but quit feeling guilty. you moved away from home so you wouldnt have to feel that didnt you?

if you want to feel closer send more. better yet...leave it up to the kids.....have them write letters once a month with pictures to send.

but i am a bad example...i disowned my family...lol

I think that she is creative in dreaming up this novel concept of rudeness but even so I think she is completely mistaken. She does not possess first-comment rights unless you give them to her. Don't give them to her! It is not rude if anyone else comments first.

I think you are entitled to post to your heart's content, whenever you get a minute and are so inclined. Without specifically asking or telling anyone!