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Jan 16, 2015, 03:20 AM
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My boyfriend has not seen his mother in over 8 years. He is very desperate and wants to marry a friend of his just for papers and will pay her a large sum of money to do so. I do not want to marry him just for his papers, so he did not ask me. I am pregnant with our first child and I'm very upset he is choosing to do this at this time and in this way. I do not agree with it and I am seriously considering leaving him, especially since he will not introduce me to this woman. I believe I have a right to know who he is getting involved with, especially since we are having a baby. This breaks my heart that he is choosing to do this now. He is upset that I am so upset about this and told me I could have offered to help him in the future instead of going off on him about it, and that I should have his back. He expected me to care more, but he knows how I feel about marriage. I also told him he should have considered my feelings in this and could at least introduce me to his friend and include me in the process, but he says its not my business, it has nothing to do with me, and at the end of the day I am just the mother of his child. I nearly slapped him across his face. I am lost, and in a vulnerable spot being pregnant, but I cannot watch him do this and talk to me that way. Advice? Serious responses only please.
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Jan 16, 2015, 07:26 AM
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Hello cs3215, well that is truly awful and I feel bad that you are now pregnant. Any person that just wants to marry someone else for a green card is not of a good character. That means they are willing to use someone else just to get into a country. This is not a relationship and would never last. Time for you to look after you and your unborn child.
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Jan 16, 2015, 10:07 AM
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he says its not my business, it has nothing to do with me, and at the end of the day I am just the mother of his child. I nearly slapped him across his face.
Ouch ! not a very nice b/f at all |
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Jan 16, 2015, 06:12 PM
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I would advise you to find an attorney and get the paperwork started regarding his financial responsibility for his child.
Take care of you and your baby. Welcome to PC
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Jan 16, 2015, 06:34 PM
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I agree with Christina
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Jan 17, 2015, 02:22 AM
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Why would a friend want large amounts of money in return for a favour?
The wife to be sounds fishy, especially since he won't even introduce you two. I would think he'd follow a movie script and marry a friend to give the relationship more credibility, instead he's supposedly paying a "friend" a large sum of money? Doesn't sound like much of a friend, and sounds like more than illegal activity is going on behind the scenes... Ditching this loser is in your and your babies best interest.
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