[coach1]

I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months Im very much in love with her and she tells me she loves me and wants t spend her life with me. She had dated a guy for about 10 months then was single for about 6 before i met her. she said she has not talked to him then i fount out she has been and stored him in her phone under a girlfriends name. She says she onlty talked to him a FEW TIMES AND IT WAS ABOUT US AND HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE else i dont know what to belive because ive asked her before if she evers talks to him and she says no.

[bebop]

first let me say I am sorry she has lied to you.
are you both willing to work in the relationship? I know trust is broken and that will be difficult to regain it. curious as to how you found out though. good luck in whatever decision you make.

[coach1]

He called and she was upstairs he didnt answer and I knew the girl that the # was stored under so i called back and got his voicemail she confessed when i asked her and she said she is vbery sorry . I was married for 3 yrs to a woman that was still in love with her ex and thats what scares me. We are willing to work on it i have to learn to forgive then trust again hard thing to do.

[EJ711]

Coach,

These kind of situations can be very tough.

Your wife probably feels guilt associated with leaving her first husband. Now she is creating another whole situation with you to feel guilty about.

I think it would be wise for you not to trust her for awhile, until things calm down and she has proved she can be trusted again.

My hairdresser was "forced" to get a divorce from her husband, because he wanted to remarry his first wife.

Things can get strange.

Hugs,

EJ

[bebop]

I agree

[greenpunkergirl]

dude, chicks lie about stuff like that all the time. I'd try to talk to her, ask her why she still feels the need to talk to him. The only reason I can see that she lied was that she was scared of losing you. be up front with her, don't get mad, and worst case scenario, end it....... although it shouldn't come to such extreme measures if you 2 are as in love as you say. Best of luck!