[fmpro]

I am considering letting my 15 year old daughter visit my wife who is in jail for seven months for a financial crime. I am willing to stick by her and not leave her because I feel She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions. And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment. I told my kids she is rightfully serving her punishment which is the right thing for her mistakes. I am wondering what is the best way to prepare for this situation and how to handle it. I have a daughter who is 14 and she seems to be handling it fine. I told her right away about it and she reacted pretty calmly. She later joked about how "now her mother is the one being ordered around". I have no problem with that really as it is probably better to joke a bit instead of being hysterical.

One thing I am wondering is what are the things they should talk about. I hear that all conversations in jail are recorded? Would it be better to stick to casual things ?

also my daughter will no doubt want to ask my wife questions about what it is like inside there. Is this a good idea? Out of curiosity if you were to ask an inmate questions about what it is like in jail, what would you ask them? Is it even a good idea to let her visit?

[jaciRock]

I don't think you have to worry about conversations being recorded or even what questions your daughter might ask. Your wife and daughter have their own relationship and I think you just may be overthinking this.

Let them conduct their own conversation. That's important to maintaining their relationship. Step back and let it happen on its own.

[SnakeCharmer]

Conversations are recorded because some prisoners and visitors discuss and plan crimes during visits. It's unlikely your daughter and her mother will engage in such actions, so there's nothing to worry about. They'll figure out what to talk about. Maybe it'll be awkward at first, but they'll figure it out.