[Carolecool7]

Hey everyone

I didn't know where to put this, so if it's in the wrong spot I'm sorry.

But, I really need help understanding something that I find happening to me. So, I guess to put it simple, I'm young, but I find myself attracted to far older people, like a teen liking a middle aged person.
BUT not attraction as in 'love' or wanting to be with them, it's like a liking as in I really appreciate them and who they are, and I really love being around them and the way they make me feel, but in no way do I have a 'crush' or anything a long those lines.

I'm a girl, and it always happens to be a 30 or 40-something guy that I tend to form a friendly relationship with and I get really emotionally attached to them. Like our relationship extends to nothing more than friendly teasing and casual conversation, but I always walk away from those interactions with such a good feeling inside that doesn't happen with everyone else. It just feels like they're filling a spot that is empty.

Again, it's nothing to do with love or crushes or anything of that nature. I'm not attracted to them in that way, but I just love them for who they are and the way they make me feel.

And, well, it's all fine and good for now, but... I don't think other people have that happen to them. All my peers are indifferent, but I find myself vying for attention.

I don't know what this is, but it confuses me.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

[kaliope]

could it be you didnt get attention from your parents as a kid, no validation? having that validation from an older person now feels really good and fills that void you were missing when you were younger. that is the guess i have.