Last week my coworker returned to work from a retreat with a very high powered official. My supervisor and myself were in the office when she arrived and my supervisor said to the co-worker " we want to hear all about your retreat, let's wait until everyone gets in then you can tell everyone." My co-worker (who couldn't see me at my desk due to a file cabinet being in the way) says " well I don't care about anyone at this job but you and Holly, so I'll just tell you two."

I stood up and the co-worker said "hello" and I said "hi." I don't speak to my coworker anymore as I'd gone out of my war to be nice to her before the comment but since she only cares about our supervisor and the office gossip, I figure she doesn't deserve the extra kindness I was giving her. Other people are realizing that I've cooled toward my coworker.

Should I tell her I heard her comment?

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Old saying, 'you never overhear good of yourself' - let it pass, what do you care about such a nasty piece of work?

[Rose76]

Instead of extending "extra kindness" to her, focus on just being courteous. Courtesy is what people who work together owe each other. Your co-workers are under no obligation to like you. And you are under no obligation to like any of them. But you do have to be courteous and cooperate for the purpose of getting the work done.

Accept that you don't really like her and she doesn't really like you. That's okay. You're not married to her. She is just someone you have to work with.

Going around being "cool" toward a co-worker is not all that mature. Your relationship needs to be businesslike, neither warm nor cool.

Originally Posted by Rose76

Instead of extending "extra kindness" to her, focus on just being courteous. Courtesy is what people who work together owe each other. Your co-workers are under no obligation to like you. And you are under no obligation to like any of them. But you do have to be courteous and cooperate for the purpose of getting the work done.

Accept that you don't really like her and she doesn't really like you. That's okay. You're not married to her. She is just someone you have to work with.

Going around being "cool" toward a co-worker is not all that mature. Your relationship needs to be businesslike, neither warm nor cool.

Thank you for your advice. I needed to be reminded of this.