[tillytot42]

Hi all I'm 46 with severe fibromyalgia and very bad generalised anxiety which causes all sorts of problems for me. My husband left me for another woman when I had post natal depression with both my children,he just couldn't cope. I've had a fair few relationships since then but since getting fibro 6 years ago I haven't met anyone. I feel like I will never meet anyone as I can't get out very much and I really don't like online dating anymore. Also how do I explain about my illness,isn't that just a complete turn off? I've also lost a lot of weight and I thought that would increase my confidence but it hasn't,I still have fibro nd I still have this crushing anxiety. I've had a fair bit of therapy over the years and I i prove for a while but once the therapy stops I slip back into my old thought patterns. I've just had a terrible ordeal with a friend I met off a fibro website,female. It really turned nasty and has dented my confidence to its lowest ever. I'm down to one friend who lives far away and we talk on the phone regularly,thank goodness I have her. I just don't know how to handle people and how to stop them taking advantage of me,so I stay at home a lot of the time,except for taking my son to school and walking my dogs. I do have two wonderful teenagers I do recognise I have got the art of being a mum right but everything else seems hopeless to me as people in general just don't understand me. I'm pretty sure I am on the autistic spectrum,as a child I hardly spoke and the bullying I suffered for the rest of my life has been awful. Two very bad marriages where I was picked on constantly. I feel like I'm a total coward.

[JJBX]

I think the confidence problems are relatively common. What would help is joining some kind of hobby that can help build up your confidence without making you feel physically worse. This article was a really nice read: Staying Positive with Fibromyalgia Getting out there and participating in what you are still able to do could be a very liberating experience for you.

As for dating, I found this list of sites specifically meant for people who are disabled or looking for a relationship with a disabled person, if you want to take a look. So, you could feel confident sharing yours because it's be expected that you have a disability if you're on the site. Top 10 Dating Sites for Disabled People

[tillytot42]

Thankyou for taking time to reply to me,What a great fibro website that is! Had a look at the dating websites and have put my profile on one,a few of them are for the use and I'm in the UK.

[mouni]

Being virtuous to oneself is the first step in overcoming hopelessness. Reunion with people you love and express each other what you actually care about, what you have actual desire for, what you contemplate certainly desires to be done in the world, what you ponder you could essentially donate to helpfully and would categorically relish doing.

[Cris80pitt]

No matter what, never give up on anything. You have problems and I do understand you and trust me, when you will expect at least, someone will show up in your life.