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Default Nov 01, 2015 at 07:40 PM
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Thank you for your comments , like i said , it is 2 months since it ended , I got 2 SMS since we finished from her and yesterday , I sent her a final SMS I really liked her daughter we were getting on finally . I know she was not stable but the romantic letters and words she said to me really touched me ,,
I thought she was the person for me , and I thought I could put up with the problems , but she put an end to the relationship

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Default Nov 05, 2015 at 11:13 PM
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I feel good today, thinking about the weekend, can not wait , but she is still in my head everyday , but I know the feeling will go away .

I just can not think about the terrible things with her only the good times ,expect when I read the old posts on here .

Looking for peace and tranquillite in my life now
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Default Dec 06, 2015 at 06:24 PM
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A month has gone since mu last post

My Ex keeps contacting me about my things I left at her place in August and its every month, so 2 weeks ago I said throw them away or give them to someone she said "ok" .
All contacts was made my SMS .

Not a day goes by without me thinking about her and the little one, but thats me . I am a lot happy , I travel like I used to.

I can only say to people , It depends how mentaly strong you are and how much you loved the person, not mentaly obsessed (daily routines). to move on.

Always remember, life is great do not give up!
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Default Feb 18, 2016 at 11:17 PM
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Hello

It has been since August 2015 , that she said to me it has finished.

My life is back on the tracks before I met her, Some days I think of her and hope she and her daughter are well.

I hope everyone that listened to me before are well and once again thank you
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Default Feb 20, 2016 at 02:38 PM
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Thanks for the update. As cliché as it is, life does go on. Everytime a door shuts, another one opens.

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Default May 12, 2016 at 09:58 AM
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Hello

Me and my ex we split up in August last year It was a 1 year realtionship (read above for more about the realtionship).

I want to send her daughter a birthday card , I have not spoken to any of them since August, Do you think its a good idea ?

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Default May 12, 2016 at 10:54 AM
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If relationship was over last August and you don't have a relationship with her children ( I am friends with my ex's adult daughter that's why I mention sometimes people stay friends with ex's kids), sending her daughter cards or gifts is inappropriate especially if she is a minor

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Default May 12, 2016 at 10:58 AM
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Thank you for the reply , if you think it is not a good idea I will not send her one . I wanted to wish her a happy birthday .

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Default May 12, 2016 at 11:06 AM
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I wouldn't tolerate my exes sending birthday cards to my child when she was young. No way

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Default May 12, 2016 at 11:29 AM
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I did not see it that way , thank you for leting me see it from another side

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Default May 12, 2016 at 01:08 PM
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On the other hand, it seems u were kinder to the child than her own mother...


If the ex is not an ex due to being an ahole I don't mind.


I don't see why my daughter should be robbed of well wishes and kind words just because my relationship didn't work out.


If he's an ahole, this all changes of course.

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Default May 12, 2016 at 01:14 PM
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Thank you , but she finished the relationship , i have not spoken to the mother or the daughter since August . I want to send a birthday card , but was not to sure . Each person feels different

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Default Sep 05, 2016 at 10:55 PM
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Hello.

It has been some time since . I have wriiten on the forum.

I just read all my comments .very strange posts .

Life is quite, still single .sometimes get the blues but I cheer myself up .

Still traveling and seeing beautiful cities and countries also people.

I would like to have a person to share it with though.

Thank you for the great website and will try and keep updated about my lifes perles.
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Default Oct 30, 2017 at 11:06 PM
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Hello

The girl whom I have talked about on this forum .rang me some weeks ago at my work and asked how I was .then I heard nothing from her for a week then she rang me again .Then another week later she turned up my work and asked me to dinner .

The basic of it we chat and she said something strange .she said "dont fall in love with me yet". This was last Thursday I have sent her 2 text msgs on her phone asking if shes fine . no reply.

What am I doing ? and why am I doing this .Its upseting me
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Default Oct 31, 2017 at 01:25 AM
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You made this comment early on in this thread
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I do not need therapy, because I see good in everyone, I
That is all the MORE REASON TO NEED THERAPY. You need to learn how to see the RESLISTIC/BIG picture of a person, their good & bad & lesrn how to weigh them out in relstionships. Seeing only good is JUST AS dysfumctional & unhealthy as seeing only the bad & requires just as much therapy to learn more functional ways of observing people.

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Default Oct 31, 2017 at 01:59 AM
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i believe the majority of people are good, isn't it strange that a few bad people get followers because of fear mongering and other tactics that ruin it for all of the good people. I feel sometimes when I am happy there are people who can't wait to wipe the smile off my face well i pray for them.
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Default Oct 31, 2017 at 04:31 AM
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Please do not get involved in this again unless she has had some serious professional help. There were so many red flags here the last time. Don’t you deserve better than chaos and instability?
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Default Nov 01, 2017 at 05:06 AM
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i am sort of pissed off at the responses some people gave you here, pierrek.

especially if your girlfriend does have mental illness some here are suggesting you abandon her. which, as a person with mental illness, that is the last thing i would want my lover to do to me. especially if i confide in this person and rely on them for companionship. that could be further damaging to her and her mental health.

but, i will say. if you need to break up with her and remain friends until she gets mentally stable... i would suggest that and i think it is a good idea. calling social services is pretty extreme thing to suggest, especially since most of you have no idea about the entire situation. for all you know, she put the daughter out because she knew she would be with pierrek.

i don't know, this whole thing pisses me off. all i can think of is i will pray for you and your situation pierrek. i spoke to you in chat, and so i hope you would consider some advice i gave to you. good luck to you and your journey.
This makes no sense, are you saying you should stay with someone just because they are mentally ill?
At the detriment of your own health?
And have we all forgotten he has a son living through this nightmare also?

He is not a Dr, or a mental health worker it isn't his job to fix her or make her better.
That's her job. But first she has to a knowledge she is unwell.
It sounds very much like she is still drinking,

Also if you read the OP's post, she chucked her daughter out first.
THEN chucked him out cos he wanted to let the daughter back in.
So I would definitely be concerned for the child's welfare.

One more thing, it is so often the case that well meaning partners and their behaviour are actually detrimental to someone's mental health condition because they get pulled into it, causing escalation of the behaviour .

Often it is too late when they see it's the illness affecting the behaviour and they have already fed into the cycle.

This relationship isn't healthy, the woman involved shouldn't be in any relationship.
She should be working on her relationship with her daughter.
And for that she needs help.

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Default Nov 01, 2017 at 09:23 AM
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Looks like things were broken off back in August 2015 assuming based on your statement May of 2016... and you mention having been single awhile now.

Do not let the fact that you'd like someone in your life to make you vulnerable in the sense that you would let this person back in again. That's called desperation and it never ends up good.

You, I believe, do know the consequences of going through all of that again. Just pause, recollect what you've gone through with this woman and let it sink in before you even think about texting and/or letting it start all over again.

hope this helps.
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Default Nov 03, 2017 at 12:45 AM
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Thank you everyone for your reply .
Since she contacted me and been to see me it's changed my thinking and my mood as changed .
One thing she said to. Me which as confused me . She said " don't fall in love with me yet " .
Let's see what happens .sine 1 week no messages .
Her other boyfriend finished with her few days ago .maybe that's why she came to see me .
I am.confused
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