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#41
Thank you for your comments , like i said , it is 2 months since it ended , I got 2 SMS since we finished from her and yesterday , I sent her a final SMS I really liked her daughter we were getting on finally . I know she was not stable but the romantic letters and words she said to me really touched me ,,
I thought she was the person for me , and I thought I could put up with the problems , but she put an end to the relationship Envoyé de mon iPhone en utilisant Tapatalk |
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#42
I feel good today, thinking about the weekend, can not wait , but she is still in my head everyday , but I know the feeling will go away .
I just can not think about the terrible things with her only the good times ,expect when I read the old posts on here . Looking for peace and tranquillite in my life now |
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#43
A month has gone since mu last post
My Ex keeps contacting me about my things I left at her place in August and its every month, so 2 weeks ago I said throw them away or give them to someone she said "ok" . All contacts was made my SMS . Not a day goes by without me thinking about her and the little one, but thats me . I am a lot happy , I travel like I used to. I can only say to people , It depends how mentaly strong you are and how much you loved the person, not mentaly obsessed (daily routines). to move on. Always remember, life is great do not give up! |
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It has been since August 2015 , that she said to me it has finished. My life is back on the tracks before I met her, Some days I think of her and hope she and her daughter are well. I hope everyone that listened to me before are well and once again thank you |
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#45
Thanks for the update. As cliché as it is, life does go on. Everytime a door shuts, another one opens.
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#46
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Me and my ex we split up in August last year It was a 1 year realtionship (read above for more about the realtionship). I want to send her daughter a birthday card , I have not spoken to any of them since August, Do you think its a good idea ? Thanks |
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#47
If relationship was over last August and you don't have a relationship with her children ( I am friends with my ex's adult daughter that's why I mention sometimes people stay friends with ex's kids), sending her daughter cards or gifts is inappropriate especially if she is a minor
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#48
Thank you for the reply , if you think it is not a good idea I will not send her one . I wanted to wish her a happy birthday .
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#49
I wouldn't tolerate my exes sending birthday cards to my child when she was young. No way
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#50
I did not see it that way , thank you for leting me see it from another side
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#51
On the other hand, it seems u were kinder to the child than her own mother...
If the ex is not an ex due to being an ahole I don't mind. I don't see why my daughter should be robbed of well wishes and kind words just because my relationship didn't work out. If he's an ahole, this all changes of course. __________________ DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realise, two out of three aint bad" FOB... |
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#52
Thank you , but she finished the relationship , i have not spoken to the mother or the daughter since August . I want to send a birthday card , but was not to sure . Each person feels different
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#53
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It has been some time since . I have wriiten on the forum. I just read all my comments .very strange posts . Life is quite, still single .sometimes get the blues but I cheer myself up . Still traveling and seeing beautiful cities and countries also people. I would like to have a person to share it with though. Thank you for the great website and will try and keep updated about my lifes perles. |
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#54
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The girl whom I have talked about on this forum .rang me some weeks ago at my work and asked how I was .then I heard nothing from her for a week then she rang me again .Then another week later she turned up my work and asked me to dinner . The basic of it we chat and she said something strange .she said "dont fall in love with me yet". This was last Thursday I have sent her 2 text msgs on her phone asking if shes fine . no reply. What am I doing ? and why am I doing this .Its upseting me |
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You made this comment early on in this thread
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#56
i believe the majority of people are good, isn't it strange that a few bad people get followers because of fear mongering and other tactics that ruin it for all of the good people. I feel sometimes when I am happy there are people who can't wait to wipe the smile off my face well i pray for them.
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#57
Please do not get involved in this again unless she has had some serious professional help. There were so many red flags here the last time. Don’t you deserve better than chaos and instability?
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At the detriment of your own health? And have we all forgotten he has a son living through this nightmare also? He is not a Dr, or a mental health worker it isn't his job to fix her or make her better. That's her job. But first she has to a knowledge she is unwell. It sounds very much like she is still drinking, Also if you read the OP's post, she chucked her daughter out first. THEN chucked him out cos he wanted to let the daughter back in. So I would definitely be concerned for the child's welfare. One more thing, it is so often the case that well meaning partners and their behaviour are actually detrimental to someone's mental health condition because they get pulled into it, causing escalation of the behaviour . Often it is too late when they see it's the illness affecting the behaviour and they have already fed into the cycle. This relationship isn't healthy, the woman involved shouldn't be in any relationship. She should be working on her relationship with her daughter. And for that she needs help. __________________ I Don't Care What You Think Of Me...I Don't Think Of You At All.CoCo Chanel. |
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#59
Looks like things were broken off back in August 2015 assuming based on your statement May of 2016... and you mention having been single awhile now.
Do not let the fact that you'd like someone in your life to make you vulnerable in the sense that you would let this person back in again. That's called desperation and it never ends up good. You, I believe, do know the consequences of going through all of that again. Just pause, recollect what you've gone through with this woman and let it sink in before you even think about texting and/or letting it start all over again. hope this helps. |
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#60
Thank you everyone for your reply .
Since she contacted me and been to see me it's changed my thinking and my mood as changed . One thing she said to. Me which as confused me . She said " don't fall in love with me yet " . Let's see what happens .sine 1 week no messages . Her other boyfriend finished with her few days ago .maybe that's why she came to see me . I am.confused |
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