Please help me deal with this.

I recently found out a man I've been lusting after is married. Ugh. Fml. I'm almost irrationally distraught about this. He's cute, funny, knowledgeable, and just really dynamic. I just feel like the wind has been knocked out of me. I hate feeling like this. It's not like anything would have happened. Obviously he's not my boyfriend or anything but...I just need some coping mechanisms because this is really upsetting to me.

Welcome to PC ForevahAlone. I assume that even though you were not in a relationship with this man, you were hopeful that you would be at some point. So, you are feeling disappointed, sad, hurt, angry, loss of a dream, etc.?? I can see why. Maybe he had intentionally omitted his marital status because he enjoyed your admiration??

Sorry this has happened to you. It will take a while to let these feelings go. Maybe getting some counseling would help. At least talk it out with a good friend or two. Give yourself some space and time to heal. You will be OK but it will take some time and effort.

I have been in the same boat as you though I may had not let my feelings get to me as badly. I worked with a married man that I started having feelings for too. Feelings are feelings. But I didn't let that get to me, I would of like to have been friends with him but I don't think he liked the idea because he may had liked me more than he wanted to, too. I accept the fact we don't talk anymore, though he was a good supervisor/friend.

The fact he told you he was married shows that he is a good man to his wife. I know this would put a smile on my face because I would be happy for her. Accepting the fact you feel hurt and upset does help. Also distancing yourself from him more can help and going out on dates with men who are single. I know eventually you'll find someone....